Posting holiday pics on line

I'd feel a bit cheeses off about that too, particularly as you helped them a lot with babysitting etc. Is it possible that your DIL was concerned about invading your privacy? I have a friend who would be furious if pictures of her were posted on social media. It might be best to say nothing unless she or your son brings it up.

Why should it bother you?
Personally I hate pics of me and I also understand not posting pics of children
Actually other people’s holiday pics always seem a bit boastful anyway especially if they are selfies.

If you have seen them doesn’t that mean you are also on social media. You too could post about how lovely it was to share the holiday and enjoy the company of your family.

Wouldn't you expect her to ask you if you wanted photos of yourself to be posted on social media? She might be respecting your privacy.

I think it bothers me because we had such a good time and now the parts of the holiday with us weren’t important enough to be included in her memories. There are plenty of photos of them and the children so she doesn’t have any problem with that. It’s almost like she has an imaginary life on line where everything is perfect and then reality where we are very much needed.

I think the boastful bit is possibly true here. It might give off the wrong idea if she seemed to have needed help or gone away with in laws. Maybe we just don’t fit the Insta look!

Tallulah21

I think the boastful bit is possibly true here. It might give off the wrong idea if she seemed to have needed help or gone away with in laws. Maybe we just don’t fit the Insta look!

Yup, think that’s it. It’s all about the image 😬

Holiday with wrinklies definitely not Insta.

I think this s something to quietly chortle about to friends (and us) 🤣😬

Thanks ladies. The joy of playing with the little ones is what really matters.

We go away with our AC and GC, I ask them not to put any photos of me on social media, perhaps they thought you wouldn’t like pictures of you to be on social media?

Unfortunately, like it or not, in most cases grandparents are not that important in these circumstances. Families want to show themselves having fun with their children.

My AC know that I don’t like photos of me on SM but if they were to post something about an event that we all enjoyed they would at least include that I was there despite not being in the pictures. OP DIL sounds a bit self centred.

I certainly think your DIL should ask you before she posted any photos of you on social media. Perhaps it was easier to leave you out. Please don't be offended. They obviously valued your help.

^They obviously valued your help^ I hope they did Tallulah. I'm sorry but for me it isn't the lack of photo's of you, you may not have wanted them on FB but no mention of you at all but praising the local staff comes across as rather ungrateful.

You know you had a good time , you dont need the validation of strangers liking a photo on social media. I think she was respecting your privacy. If you want to post pictures you can.

I wouldn't post my jollyday pics online. Why! for goodness sake?🤔
If I did, it would cause such a furore because of MrIlovedogs wearing his bright orange budgie-smugglers.
It is a sight that's certainly not for the faint of heart or anyone really! It's certainly a bold choice for a gentleman of a certain age. 🤔

I don't think it's just about the lack of pictures Elowen. There were no pictures of the local staff either, but a least they got a mention.

I would be reluctant to be pictured on holiday as it tells the world that you are away from home.

Tallulah21

I think it bothers me because we had such a good time and now the parts of the holiday with us weren’t important enough to be included in her memories. There are plenty of photos of them and the children so she doesn’t have any problem with that. It’s almost like she has an imaginary life on line where everything is perfect and then reality where we are very much needed.

‘That’s it’ Tallulah, they have to have this perfect life, which doesn’t include us old parents.
I would be glad, I hate having my picture taken & certainly don’t want it plastered over FB, which I don’t have an account.

Having a nice time is all that mattered. I wouldn’t need to have to show it to the world.

Holidays with AC and grandchildren are always ‘touch and go’. My experiences were not the best, except for spending time with the GC . I would rather go with friends.
One of my friends said that when she went on holiday with her son, d.i.l. , grandson and d.i.l.s parents, she was given a room at the very top of the 3 floor apartment. She suffers badly from RA and it was a struggle going up and down.
I dont think young adults give much much consideration to the physical abilities or lack thereof, of their ageing parents.
Tallulah21 don’t let the ‘photos’ issue spoil your memories of, what you yourself refer to as a ‘delightful’ holiday.

this would do my head in as well. Did they thank you in person though?

I can understand you were probably a bit surprised at apparently being invisible, but you could always ask her if it bothers you.

Why spoil the memory of a lovely holiday worrying about why you haven't been posted on your DD's facebook page?

You have memories of a delightful holiday, how lovely that is.

Yep. It's hard, but I agree with othets who have said that online uploads of holidays are curated to project an image. Carefree. . family unit ...looking happy sun-kissed and self contained. Grandparents kind of ruin the look. All v superficial of course. But you know and they know the truth. Let that be enough xx.