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Husband doesn’t understand the whole dishcloth/cleaning rag thing!

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Sago Wed 30-Jul-25 17:41:16

We recently moved home and we have got rid of masses of stuff and bought lots of lovely shiny new things.
However some things cannot be replaced.

I have a huge kitchen drawer with a basket of probably 30 dishcloths and another of cleaning rags.
The cleaning rags are pure linen tea towels that are old and worn, they polish like magic, the dishcloths are proper Lancashire dishcloths, I think some of these have been with me 40+ years.

They work brilliantly are not made in China and I love them.

My husband cannot understand my attachment and bought me some new dishcloths (yes been thoroughly spoilt I know!)they are Chinese rubbish so have been relegated to the utility room.

He thinks I am mad……I think I am perfectly sane.

AIBU?

Patsy70 Wed 30-Jul-25 21:14:38

Life is too short to worry about cleaning cloths, surely? 🤷🏻‍♀️

butterandjam Wed 30-Jul-25 21:25:35

Of course I salute your reverence for pure linen teatowels ; I share it but mine must be red and white. Dh doesn't get it but he knows never to abuse them.

He just doesn't get rags at all. He knows that old cotton clothes end up in the rag bag , saved for one-off use then get chucked. What I just can't get through to him is that a man sized pair of denim jeans , however old, cannot be used for mopping dog sick because they are not a rag. Or soft or absorbent. To become RAGS, most old cotton clothes have to be cut up. Into squares, The right size. Unless they are already quite small, like his y-fronts. There is no need, or point, cutting defunct Y fronts into squares because they will be too small to have any use. Rags are kept in the rag bag. So its easy to find a rag. There is no need to take out all the rags and wonder which one to choose or what it used to be... before mopping dog sick or wiping engine oil. Priorities.

Allira Wed 30-Jul-25 21:45:03

I have several linen tea towels which have never been used, inherited from MIL who used to collect them. They're commemorative ones, too nice to use!

What are Lancashire dishcloths? Never heard of them.
Perhaps I'll knit or crochet some with some cotton yarn from the stash.

Allira Wed 30-Jul-25 21:46:22

Ps I have a basket under the sink in the utility room where I keep various cleaning cloths, Sago!
They're precious items 😁

Sago Wed 30-Jul-25 22:16:03

I even iron my rags😱

Allira Wed 30-Jul-25 22:28:44

Now, I knew someone who ironed socks but ironing rags? 😯

keepingquiet Wed 30-Jul-25 22:36:58

In my cloth drawer at the front left hand side I have my cotton tea towels, folded over in quarters. If for some reason there are too many to squeeze in I find the raggiest ones and use them for dusters. At the front right hand side go my dishcloths- folden in half. Behind them at the back go the cotton dusters, some of them made from cut up tea towels or my old dressing gown! At the back left hand side go my white cotton kitchen hand towels!
So glad this is a thing! Sad, but I love folding my dusters and knowing when I need one all will be well...

Allira Wed 30-Jul-25 22:40:50

Oh dear, I must look after my dusters better.
They're stuffed in a bag hanging from a hook in the cupboard, along with the polish. blush

Esmay Wed 30-Jul-25 23:36:22

I have my collection of cleaning cloths .
Most of them are old cut up T shirts
Linen tea towels are precious and there's nothing quite like them .
My oldest tea towel is now 50 and I keep it out of sentimentality .

Catterygirl Wed 30-Jul-25 23:45:33

About three years ago, husband found a cleaner and said she cleaned better than me. He was right because I had very bad cataracts in both eyes but after the complicated surgery I now have 20/20 vision and find both of them lacking as I can see every breadcrumb etc. It drives me crazy but I am so grateful for my wonderful eyesight as I am a writer and not a cleaner. Lots of laughter.

V3ra Wed 30-Jul-25 23:59:16

BlueberryPie

I mean, sometimes I dust with a washcloth. Other times, a paper towel or a sock or even the cat. No difference. shrug

When I do any cleaning, my little dog joins in by licking the laminate flooring and the wardrobe doors.
When I do any gardening he licks the parasol bases all the way round.
He likes to help 🐕

crazyH Thu 31-Jul-25 00:26:55

Hold on, it's not quite the dance of the seven veils
Love it 🤣🤣🤣

Scribbles Thu 31-Jul-25 00:48:46

It never occurred to me that there are people who don't understand the significance of and differences between various types of household cloth. Until I met my SO, that is. He was genuinely baffled as to why I turned into a screeching harpy when I found him using my face flannel to clean the windowsills.

JamesandJon33 Thu 31-Jul-25 03:41:04

And me Sago🤭

Allsorts Thu 31-Jul-25 04:27:20

Well I suppose it was kind of your husband to notice.

Desdemona Thu 31-Jul-25 08:08:28

I don't know what Lancashire dishcloths are, but I feel I have missed out and now I want some. smile

M0nica Thu 31-Jul-25 08:26:26

Desdemona

I don't know what Lancashire dishcloths are, but I feel I have missed out and now I want some. smile

They are those stockinette roll dishcloths - at least that is what came up when I googled them. I hadn't heard of them either, but I recognised them when I saw them.

I think when we moved a chucked a whole lot out that I had inherited unused from an aunt and I hadn't used them either, so out they went.

petra Thu 31-Jul-25 08:26:34

Sago

I even iron my rags😱

Sago
You’re not my friend, Pam from many years ago at Tollesbury, are you? 😂

Elegran Thu 31-Jul-25 09:15:58

Try telling him that you have been using his best fine-detail wood-carving chisel as a screwdriver, paint-tin opener, and concrete breaker, as you thought chipping the edge didn't matter - it's just a tool.

Mt61 Thu 31-Jul-25 10:40:41

I’ve never heard of those Lancashire dishcloths either, only Lancashire dusters.
I bought mine from Lakeland shop. Must have had them donkeys yrs. They don’t shed like those yellow dusters.
My dishcloths must be large, 100% cotton so that I can bleach them, Same with tea towels, white.
The only thing I can’t seem to get a hold of is those herringbone oven cloths, mine are freyed now.

Visgir1 Thu 31-Jul-25 10:57:01

Chocolatelovinggran

To add to the 1936 vibe here, I'm proud to say that I knit my dishcloths from cotton.
My children think that I am ...nuts..

I worked with someone once who also did this... We too thought she was nuts 😅

woodenspoon Thu 31-Jul-25 11:09:10

My aunts used to knit dishcloths from balls of cotton many years ago. Nowadays, I just buy mine from the supermarket or use old face flannels that are past their prime.

DH has a stash in the garage for his diy jobs. Occasionally they find their way indoors so I have to be vigilant!

Aldom Thu 31-Jul-25 11:12:25

Visgirl when I was growing up in the 40's and 50's knitting dish cloths was something many housewives did.
I knitted some as practice once I had learned to knit.

Devorgilla Thu 31-Jul-25 11:25:31

My husband never did understand the difference between using an old cloth to clean his motorbike as opposed to the new ones I had just bought for the kitchen. He no longer has the bike so my cloths are safe. Still trying, after several decades, to teach him to close cupboard doors. My mother's house was broken into - not badly - but the one thing that really upset my sister who did her cleaning was that they had dared to touch her dusters. angry

Gin Thu 31-Jul-25 11:25:50

In infants school, learning to knit, we were expected to make our mothers a dishcloth. We were given a ball of cotton and it stuck to the needles, tied itself in knots and put me off knitting for life!