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All alone on my birthday

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crazyH Fri 01-Aug-25 19:36:10

I’ve always liked my birthdays. That’s the only day of the year, when I get a bit of attention. The rest of the time, I am the one who gives, gives, gives……. my time, my money, my attention.
My bday is on 14th August. It’s not a big birthday, All
my 3 children and their families, live locally. I see them regularly. However, they have all planned holidays (separate) on the fortnight of my birthday, and I am feeling quite hurt. I know they have young children and August is the only month, during which they can get away.
I feel guilty for feeling like this. I am divorced and live on my own. I have lovely neighbours and I’m sure I could ask one of them to go out for lunch with me but it’s not the same as family.
Btw this is the first time, that I will be alone on my birthday - hence these hurt feelings. AIBU ?

Norah Wed 13-Aug-25 15:59:01

Happy Day before your Birthday! crazyH

Maremia Wed 13-Aug-25 16:06:56

Lovely that it has all worked out. Was going to suggest you facetime them, but a much better version is going to happen.
Enjoy.

Margiknot Wed 13-Aug-25 23:05:23

Happy Birthday H

Elrel Wed 13-Aug-25 23:20:35

I was going to suggest, as have several other people, a family party when everyone is back from their holidays.

ClicketyClick Thu 14-Aug-25 00:31:49

Have a lovely birthday today thanks

NotAGran55 Thu 14-Aug-25 06:27:48

Happy birthday 🎂 🎈!

Millie22 Thu 14-Aug-25 09:04:33

Happy Birthday 🎉

I've just had my birthday. August birthdays are special.

PiscesLady Thu 14-Aug-25 09:12:39

Happy birthday 🎂
Spoil yourself!
🌹🌹🌹

Ziggy62 Thu 14-Aug-25 09:20:21

Happy birthday 🎂
Only very special people are born on August 14th xxxx

Yoginimeisje Thu 14-Aug-25 09:30:36

CrazyH HAPPY BIRTHDAY cupcake wine flowers xxx

I remember, years back, planning a holiday and said; can't go then, it's Father's Day So your AC were thoughtless, they must have known the others were going at the same time. You need to cultivate a good friend, that you will be happy to go on your birthday meal with, on the day. As you get older, I think that's what you have to do.

windmill1 Thu 14-Aug-25 09:40:16

I live on my own and that's fine by me because my birthday is 1st April, and in the past so-called 'friends' have used it as a licence to perpetrate various humiliating tricks. I hate birthdays.

I've jettisoned quite a few of these idiots by losing my temper with them. No bad thing!

crazyH Thu 14-Aug-25 09:42:17

UPDATE : It’s THE Day - thankyou all you lovely people for your support and kind words.
I had a surprise on Tuesday - my daughter took me to see Riverdance - had a drink and snacks .
I have invited five of my neighbours for Prosecco, Samosas, and nibbles
This evening my daughter will take me for a shopping spree and Dinner.
I had messages from sons and d.I.ls - promised to FaceTime me later when the GC wake up and settled, but it’s not the same D.ils parents dropped by yesterday with Cards from the AC which they had left with them before they left on holiday. They could have brought it themselves before they left.
Once more, thank you all so much. You are all great friends and ports in a storm. 😍

crazyH Thu 14-Aug-25 09:44:46

And how really thoughtful and kind to remember today and send me your wishes - thankyou xx

Elusivebutterfly Thu 14-Aug-25 10:33:00

Happy Birthday crazyH.

Athrawes Thu 14-Aug-25 11:02:41

Oh dear, I think I'm an oddball - I just don't like my birthday. I find the attention embarrassing but I enjoy being with others on their special day!

SunshineSally Thu 14-Aug-25 11:16:20

Happy Birthday crazyH and Happy Birthday Ziggy62
🎂🥂💐🎂🥂💐

Bellanonna Thu 14-Aug-25 12:11:35

Many Happy Returns, CrazyH! It sounds like you’ve had a good time.

Ziggy62 Thu 14-Aug-25 12:18:01

SunshineSally

Happy Birthday crazyH and Happy Birthday Ziggy62
🎂🥂💐🎂🥂💐

Ah thank you 😊

Granddog36 Thu 14-Aug-25 12:19:10

Happy Birthday 🥳😊👍 xxx

SusieB50 Thu 14-Aug-25 12:40:48

Happy birthday crazyH and Ziggy ! Both my children’s birthdays are in the school holidays and we were often away . August Canberra a tricky month 😐

Devorgilla Thu 14-Aug-25 17:00:53

Happy Birthday both. Glad it worked out to be a good day.

luluaugust Thu 14-Aug-25 17:54:22

Happy birthday crazy H and Ziggy
🥳🎂

westendgirl Thu 14-Aug-25 18:01:08

. Very best wishes .Hope you have had a really happy day today for your birthday.{flowers}

westendgirl Thu 14-Aug-25 18:03:40

Oh dear I didn't get that right. You were supposed to have a pretty posy,Sorry but send you Many Happy returns and love
on your Birthday.

flowers

Romola Thu 14-Aug-25 18:19:40

Looks like you ARE having a happy birthday! Well done 👏
And here are my best wishes to add to all the othersthankswine