My partners parents have been visiting since friday. Today, they were leaving Earlish so they suggested a coffee with us (and partners sister and family) before hitting the road. We left the house and partner immediately started criticising my driving. He done this 4 times. When we arrived he looked at me and said I looked nice and asked what was wrong. I told him I feel he also cricises me. I feel everything I do he has a negative comment to say. He said he doesn't think I'm the best driver and wants me to plan ahead when making driving decisions. I said I didn't need to I was aware of situations etc. For example, I didn't have to pull in, I had enough room to get past tractor, etc. He then had a go and then I said "normally I'd let you bother me but I won't. I've decided your not happy with your life and need tj comment on everything". Well, he raised his voice, pointed in my face and started telling me we were going home. I said no. He got out the car and slammed it so hard. It gave our 4 month old a fright. He then started resembling the pram. When it was up and baby was in, I locked the doors and went to push the pram. He then asked what I was doing and tried grabbing the pram out of my hands and pushing me out of the way. He said I had no right telling him he is unhappy in life etc and that he is fed up that I tell him how he is thinking / feeling. He then said he had enough and that we were over. I told him to grow up. And that ifwhay I've said isn't true, why was he getting so angry? I told him his actions were appalling. Ie grabbing pram, pushing phone in my face and slamming door. He said its all my fault as I wind him up. He said I've given him grief for years and this is why he reacts like this. I did treat him horribly to begin with but thays all in the past. Like years ago. I did question him lots and tell him how he was thinking / feeling and was incredibly jealous but I went to therapy and stopped it.
He apologised for his actions but said its my fault and that we have never been happy and we don't have alot of good days. We eventually met his family, and then they left after 2 hrs. He asked if I wanted to stay at outdoor cafe. I said yes as it was a beautiful day. He then, apologised again and so did I.
He was being very quiet. I asked what was wrong. He said he didn't want ti talk as I've accused him that he criticises everything I said / do. I told him to grow up and to stop sulking. He then shook his head and said i make him unhappy. Our baby started crying on / off. I said she was probably hungry and we should get more hot water to make up more formula. He said no, she couldn't possibly be hungry again. He then said she needed changed. I checked and said it was wee and that she's hungry. No she needs changed. As he was holding her. I told him to go to toilets and change her. He seemed pissed that I didn't take her and go do it. I then told him to hold on, watch table and I woild get boiling water abd make up a feed while he was changing her. He said no, she needed changed abd went off. Wheh he came back, she was still crying. I then went abd got water abd her feed was ready in 5 minutes. It felt like the longest 5 mins as she was crying. She then drank some and went to sleep. I said that was why I wanted to get water first so I could make feed while he was away and save time. He then got pissed telling me that I can't priorise and she needed changed first. I said as it was a pee, she could have waited a few mins. And that I sometimes think he changes her too quickly. Well, that was that. How dare you critice my parenting. He then said I should have got up abd got water instead of talking about it. I said he told me she didn't need fed at 1st hence why I didn't go. He then said I am a poor communicator and planner. He then Sat in silence. When I asked him what was going on he got pissed again "I am not repeating myself". I told him we had different priorities and no one was right or wrong. He told me I was wrong and I am shit and planning. I told him he was already in a mood and he is exaggerating things. He then got angry, there you go, telling me how I feel etc. I asked if he wanted to be sat with me and our baby as he was pissed off and silent despite me trying ti make conversation. He said he wanted to go home as he was bored. As we weren't doing anything. That upset me as he is always says he had a nice time even when we are doing nothing. I then went to loo to change baby before we left. When i came out he asked if I wanted to buy the cake i wanted. I said yes, bought it and then aksed if he wabted a slice. He said no. We got home 2 hrs ago and he has not said 1 word to me.
Sorry its long. Yes its immature. Who is in the wrong. I'm upset, sitting in backgarden, alone
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