It’s every time and I’m ready to say something!

Why doesn't he cook?

Men are a complete mystery to me...

Mine is the opposite, if I am cooking and he is in the kitchen he clears up things I am still using 🤬

Mine always dishes out the dinner, and always leaves a bit behind. A potato, a spoonful of peas, a slice of quiche. Why?

Just swear to yourself Sago and put them away or leave them out for your husband to do.
Whichever creates the least bother really….🤔

Jamesandjon33 now that is always perplexing. My mum did this even when someone had said they’d like more, - big family meals then. Just odd

Maybe it’s a throwback from some tradition in his upbringing, or in case somebody calls who is in desperate need of one and a half of a potato and a spoon of peas with (I’m presuming) a smallish sliver of quiche.
Cold quiche eaten as a snack next day is not bad though is it?

I cook my husband usually clears away but if it doesn’t go in the dishwasher it sits on the worktop 🤷‍♀️I have given up and just finish off very frustrating though!

We take turns cooking but my husband always clears away and loads the dishwasher.
I often rearrange things and retrieve some which are better washed by hand.
What does annoy me though is his seeming inability to close a cupboard door he's opened, whatever room he's been in 🙄

Today 09:43JamesandJon33

Mine always dishes out the dinner, and always leaves a bit behind. A potato, a spoonful of peas, a slice of quiche. Why?

I remember reading about this a long time ago. Apparently it's a throwback to to caveman days whereby they didn't eat all of their meal in case their next hunt wasn't successful. Who knows. Must admit I find myself doing it sometimes with no idea why.

Yes, I think you are being unreasonable but it clearly bothers you so perhaps say something if it bugs you that much.

Perhaps your DH knows this riles you, hence he does it all the more.
I suggest you say nothing, don’t respond, don’t challenge and maybe he'll get the idea that you’re not bothered and he will stop playing mind games.

ClicketyClick

Today 09:43JamesandJon33

Mine always dishes out the dinner, and always leaves a bit behind. A potato, a spoonful of peas, a slice of quiche. Why?

I remember reading about this a long time ago. Apparently it's a throwback to to caveman days whereby they didn't eat all of their meal in case their next hunt wasn't successful. Who knows. Must admit I find myself doing it sometimes with no idea why.

That’s interesting. I’m pleased to read that other people do this, as DH does and it’s always puzzled me. I’m certainly not complaining because he does nearly all the cooking, but why leave half a dozen bits of cooked pasta and a spoonful of sauce in the pans? He does it with raw ingredients too - I’ll often find half a small carrot or a teensy cube of Cheddar wrapped in clingfilm in the fridge. .

No point in saying anything.

DH manages the dishwasher, religiously filling and emptying it. When he empties it any saucepans are put on the hob (the cupboard they live in can't be opened when the dishwasher is open). And there they stay until I put them away. I did once ask him why he didn't put them away but he just looked a bit blank. Don't even think he was aware that he forgot about them. I just decided to be grateful he wasn't someone who sat on their ar** and did nothing.

Don't ask us! We don't know. Ask you husbands why they do these daft and annoying things!

AuntieE

Don't ask us! We don't know. Ask you husbands why they do these daft and annoying things!

I don’t think you quite get the idea of this forum🥴

Sago

JamesandJon33

Mine always dishes out the dinner, and always leaves a bit behind. A potato, a spoonful of peas, a slice of quiche. Why?

I put my hand up to doing this, & my DH moans about it.
I think it's that I put out the amount that looks right on the plate.

AuntieE

Don't ask us! We don't know. Ask you husbands why they do these daft and annoying things!

If everyone did that AuntieE there would be no need for Gransnet.

My late MIL used to come and stay with us. She used to dry up the dishes and leave them all along the worktops. Plates, cups, saucepans, cheese grater, Just everything!

Primrose, my (very lovely) MIL, used to try to put things away and I’d spend days after she’d left trying to find them 😂

GrannyGravy13

Mine is the opposite, if I am cooking and he is in the kitchen he clears up things I am still using 🤬

Granny Gravy ,,,mine too, and he stands at the sink, takes ages to wash anything, when I'm trying to get in there , I'd rather have the kitchen to myself, but he thinks he's helping...

keepingquiet

Why doesn't he cook?

Men are a complete mystery to me...

Mine doesn’t either. Not that I’m saying he couldn’t make something simple if he wanted to. Before he retired he was hardly ever home before 7, too late to start cooking and I wouldn’t have expected him to.
And during our many years overseas, he always worked very long hours and only ever had one day off a week.

He now always clear up the kitchen, and TBH does it perfectly - loads the dishwasher, and unloads it in the morning. Plus he’s totally unfussy and is always appreciative of whatever I give him. So I have no complaints. V

I cook and the washing up monitor clears up, this includes washing the plates ready to place them in the dish washer to be washed, I do wonder what the monitor thinks the dishwasher is for I occasionally venture over to the machine to put the odd plate in but I'm not really qualified in the stacking procedure allegedly!, I did have this skill once at some stage I seem to have lost custody of the dishwasher, I have occasional visiting rights . One of our sons will wash up as he goes, he likes to cook these days if he's visiting, but leaves everything all over the draining board and prone to use humongous squirts of Fairy, the monitor is prone to declare on seeing the plates and saucepans stacked up, but not put away, "half a job" Half a job it might well be, but go back to when he was a teen and beyond, there the dirty dishes would lie ready for the staff me to sort them out.

Just leave it out.

Have an “Am I bovvered?” attitude. Say nothing. Smile sweetly and do something for you.

Oh for goodness sake if that's all you have to complain about, lucky you.