Lonely this Christmas

It’s that I’ve got nobody feeling, isn’t it? Did your husband always make his own arrangements or is this a new thing?

Personally I would book a Christmas break away but I can see it would be a brave, difficult thing to do.

Or maybe arrange a get together after Christmas?

Sometimes we do feel alone and unwanted but it is possible to live through it, if there is something to look forward to.

Unless you are religious I really don’t get the knots people tie themselves in about Christmas,
who spends what time with who,
or who cooks the obligatory Turkey and how many people come to sit round the table.
There is all the rest of the year to spend days with family.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but if they have spent every previous Christmas with you isn't it time they spent the day elsewhere? Surely their in-laws must feel pretty miffed that it has always been your day

Yes, on the other side of the country :-(

I really would attempt to dial it down a bit in your head if you can.

It's 24 hours in the dead of winter. A friend tried to volunteer and was told there was a long waiting list. Many people find it challenging and sad.

Can you out out a few feelers and build up a couple of acquaintances if not friends?

I got a bit confused. Do you mean that everyone except your son and husband is going to be at the one house?

Life is change and despite all the associated traditions Christmas changes too.

I think you have time to think about how you would like to mark the day in some way rather than letting it brew for weeks.

I find it very sad that your DH has 'other' arrangements that don't include you. Maybe this is something you need to look at rather than facing the day alone and miserable.