Traveling now - dramas

I'm assuming you are typing on your phone, since this post is a bit hard to read.

Are you all sharing accommodations? I would try to make some space for myself away from this person, by spending a bit of time away from them each day.

If possible, try a conversation (before cocktail hour!) saying that she seems unhappy with some of the arrangements, and what she would like to do about it. Put it in her hands. Then it can be a 'put up or shut up' situation if she doesn't have any better ideas.

As for all the small complaints (the lost items or food complaints), tease her gently about being too fussy and remind her what a wonderful situation you are in; the fact that you can afford this holiday, the wonderful scenery, change from the routine etc.

Good luck, deep breaths!

As the person who booked & planned this trip I’m well versed in their comments etc etc.or lack of.

Why on earth would you plan a month-long trip with this person???
You must be a saint 😇

Yes, Vera, I thought this too!

Can you print off a daily itinerary somewhere and give it to her the night before you move - she can check it all out overnight then.
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Did you ask this person if they wanted to join you for this “trip”? No, I dont think you did…….

As you say that you were aware that this person was like this , why on earth did you think a holiday with him/her would be a pleasant experience ?

Is this person your partner or friend? I think they are behaving in a very abusive way if everything they disagree with turns into a row. It's a good idea to give them the itinerary the night before. Assumably they have access to the internet so they can look up the planned places you are visiting, if they disagree to this then tell then, in no uncertain terms, that if they are not happy with what you have planned than they can find something different that they can do alone and you can just meet up for lunch and /or dinner. If you let people get away with bad behaviour then they will. Holidays cost a lot of money and time and effort. It's clear that they are not enjoying themselves for whatever reason so they might welcome some 'alone' time.

Unfortunately there is little that you can do. I would say that this person's idea of fun on a holiday is making a fuss, and on a month-long holiday she has a captive audience.
Do the others in your group feel the same or is it you who is the target? As the organiser it is you who will be held responsible, and if you try and muster support it will be....oh, well, I don't mind really, I'll just go with the flow.
All I can suggest is meet every negative with a positive and a big smile and arrange some time away from this woman.

I have a group of friends which includes someone like this, although not as bad, and it takes hours and multiple texts to arrange a venue for coffee,(then changed at the last moment) a meal or a trip to the cinema/theatre. Trouble over the food, the seating arrangements, the noise of the coffee machine, the time or arrival (always too early), other people's noise etc etc etc and worst of all if she has to sit in the back seat of the car. It is not just with friends, it is work, family, her husband, (other than her children) the dentist the doctor and the vet.
Just do not ever consider organising a holiday which includes her again.

I feel really sorry for you, you sound frustrated, unhappy and at the end of your tether.

No advice just try hard not to let this terrible travelling companion completely ruin your trip

I had a friend who was always miserable. I would never have gone on holiday with her. I don’t see her now.
This post is the the AIBU thread. On the face of it, yes, for taking her with you. But we don’t know why that came about.
Try and get some space away from her if you can.

Is it your MIL?

From your previous post, when you were planning the holiday, l remember this person was being very awkward and you were hoping they would be fine once the holiday began. It seems your optimism was misplaced. Your only options are put up with their rather antisocial behaviour or have it out with them in an attempt to clear the air. I think, with 21 days to go, it's likely to come to an unpleasant show down. That show down may be better had sooner rather than later, in the hope you can get on and enjoy the holiday. Do not let this person ruin your time away. I think I'd end up blatantly blanking them, nasty though that seems. It seems, from this and your previous post, to be attention seeking, deny them the attention. They seemed to contribute nothing but criticism during the planning stages and is carrying this on. Is it a male, is mysoginy at the root of it l wonder.

Oh dear, what a shame. Any way you can change the itinerary and build in a ‘do our own thing’ day, just for a break?

I just wanted to say that I’m so sorry this person is ruining your holiday. There may be very good reasons why they had to go with you but that doesn’t help much. I hope something changes, soon!

Nothing worse than being on holiday with someone who moans all the time.

Keep venting ! Keep drinking (gin/wine) ....& just remember how bad it is so you dont invite them again!! Hope it gets better for you

Too difficult to read.

Just tell them to go back home.

Eh?

How about taking a deep breath, and having a conversation with this person? Not to attack, but to see how they are feeling and also to tell them what it is like for you. Not focused on blame but both listening well to the other............it might work! I have seen situations like this one resolved by really good listening to each other. Good luck!

Why on earth have you not said anything to this person. Or are you the sort to just suffer in silence.

Are you the martyr type?

I am puzzled as to why you arranged it in the first place, sorry it does not make sense. The Holiday is just living up to your expectations.

I hate to say it but you are just going to have to "HAVE it OUT" with the person, AND NO ifs AND NO buts ...just get on with it

Tried that one ☝️

Thank you 🤩
That’s exactly my plan .
I did need to vent , so thanks for listening 🙏😎