Men on forum

Lona

Who wants to be equal to men, why should we lower ourselves to their level!?

I agree you shouldn't want to be the same as men.

As I said earlier, David parrots an opinion as fact and never apologises for being offensive. "It's what most do in 21st century." Has he given any evidence? Nope. Just the world according to David

David49

"Why do some women take their husband's name when they marry even today?

For the same reasons that they marry, security and status, there are very few women who would refuse to be a wife if asked.

It's mostly professional women who use their maiden name

ROFL!!

oh, keep 'em coming David49 😂

Actually, I changed my surname to DH's when I married because I preferred it. However, having researched family history, I've begun to rather like my original surname now.

status
🤔

That exactly my point they were asked and chose to get married for the extra security that gives then, as the vast majority would.

I think data from the ONS might well prove that assertion to be wrong.

Allira

^That exactly my point they were asked and chose to get married for the extra security that gives then, as the vast majority would.^

I think data from the ONS might well prove that assertion to be wrong.

The ONS quote that 1 in 5 couples choose to cohabit and not marry.
That qualifies as "most". you can admit you are wrong but I don't expect it.

David49

Allira

That exactly my point they were asked and chose to get married for the extra security that gives then, as the vast majority would.

I think data from the ONS might well prove that assertion to be wrong.

The ONS quote that 1 in 5 couples choose to cohabit and not marry.
That qualifies as "most". you can admit you are wrong but I don't expect it.

you can admit you are wrong but I don't expect it.
No, I won't admit I'm wrong when I am not.

asked? What century are you living in?
This becomes more and more bizarre.

grumppa

I think the last person I discussed boats with was round the world yachtswoman Tracy Edwards. So much for generalisations about the sexes.

Good to see you grumppa
Quite a relief, in fact! 😀

David49

Thats over 2 pages of feminism Im doing really well.

Women get married if they can because if they don't both have the freedom to walk away with just maintenance for children. In bereavement a partner can be left with nothing, thats really silly.

You do really come up with the weirdest fantasies.
Your first sentence doesn’t even make sense, and your point about bereavement is precisely what?

It’s not feminism to recognise that since the mid- 20th century when long overdue equal rights were eventually granted to women, women have as often as not had to rely on their own intelligence, education, business acumen, talent, strength and ability to lead independent lives.
To choose their own partners, marry or not, change their name or not, have children or not, buy property or not, earn the same as a man for the same work to succeed to the monarchy, to be Prime Minister, but ultimately - to think and act for themselves

Your personal experience sounds sadly limited if you are still unaware of this.

Allira

David49

Allira

That exactly my point they were asked and chose to get married for the extra security that gives then, as the vast majority would.

I think data from the ONS might well prove that assertion to be wrong.

The ONS quote that 1 in 5 couples choose to cohabit and not marry.
That qualifies as "most". you can admit you are wrong but I don't expect it.

you can admit you are wrong but I don't expect it.
No, I won't admit I'm wrong when I am not.

asked? What century are you living in?
This becomes more and more bizarre.

So you refuse to believe ONS

Less than 50% of adults in the UK are married or in a civil partnership.

And for David or anybody to extrapolate that

and chose to get married *for the extra security that gives then, as the vast majority would* is reading an additional motivation into it .
The “status” connection made me laugh too.
So very Jane Austen
“If I can but see one of my daughters happily settled at Netherfield,” said Mrs. Bennet to her husband, “and all the others equally well married, I shall have nothing to wish for.”

Welcome to gransnet Mrs Bennet, you’re just the sort of lady David believes in

Allira

Less than 50% of adults in the UK are married or in a civil partnership.

With the divorce rate as high as it is Im not surprised, some remarry some don't.
When I lost my wife I decided to find a new partner, after 3 yrs together we did marry, so I must be doing something right. She didn't like being solo any more than I did, together we have a really good life

We married 55 years ago, I didn't marry for security even all those years ago. I married DH because I wanted to be with him. Security never crossed my mind.

Iam64

Welcome to gransnet Mrs Bennet, you’re just the sort of lady David believes in

🤣🤣🤣👏👏

Iam64

Welcome to gransnet Mrs Bennet, you’re just the sort of lady David believes in

These days as long as they are happy that is the best you can hope for, not everyone finds or even wants to find a good partner married or not.
4 of my GC have got long term partners, eldest is 26 so only one married, 1 GD is drifting failed to find a graduate job after Uni, she has taken a job in Ireland, new start, pastures new, I hope it works out for her whichever way she chooses

kittylester

We married 55 years ago, I didn't marry for security even all those years ago. I married DH because I wanted to be with him. Security never crossed my mind.

Ditto, kittylester.

Me three

Iam64

Me three

I could hae had my pick 😁

Just saying!!

Allira

kittylester

We married 55 years ago, I didn't marry for security even all those years ago. I married DH because I wanted to be with him. Security never crossed my mind.

Ditto, kittylester.

I married for love both times I had to promise to look after them both times and I have.

Aw, bless

David49

Thats over 2 pages of feminism Im doing really well.

Women get married if they can because if they don't both have the freedom to walk away with just maintenance for children. In bereavement a partner can be left with nothing, thats really silly.

So why do men get married? If they can, that is?

David49...why did I marry?cos I love him and want to be known as his wife,cos he asked me and wanted me to be his wife cos he loves me....it's not the security, we've both been married twice before,we have our own money but work well together,we are best friends,we both bring things to the table as it were,..

I’m increasingly stunned David believes women in 2026 marry for security and to ensure they can take half his money 🙈