Angry at husbands reaction

I think your husband was being ‘male defensive’ he probably feels really horrible that he caused you ( you say his fault ???) to not have your hearts desire but because there’s nothing he can do about it now he put his steel armour on and defected the blame by becoming angry
I can totally understand how you feel but you are only hurting yourself to keep on feeling it as it’s nothing that can be rectified now
Say no more and enjoy the new arrival but your feelings are perfectly valid 💐

FAncingDuck did not tell her husband she's angry at not having had a child of her own Macaydia.

I mean DancingDuck.

I see both sides to this .
Your husband's reaction makes me wonder if he's sensitive about not being able to give you a child.
It's very difficult for you to express your pain to him and he's defensive.
He must feel guilty.

Try to talk about it to a close friend and perhaps not to him in future.
But if it becomes an issue you both might need counselling .

It's not unreasonable at all to be sad that you have missed out on being a Mum and the visit highlighted and reignited your painful loss.

Most people would understand the loss- perhaps as your husband is trying to convey when he knows how you feel. That is he might have been trying to demonstrate empathy and understanding as he cares about you. No one, including your husband can know your actual feelings and how you are experiencing them internally.

Your question: *AIBU to have expected a bit more understanding when he knows how much I longed for a child of my own?*- is very difficult to answer as your expectations are unknown and unclear.

Describe to us what you mean by "a bit more understanding" and what you expect and hope for from your husband by way of his words and actions. As I don't know- perhaps your husband does not know? Meanwhile he is walking on egg shells regarding the forthcoming birth of this grandchild and in your eyes failing to meet your needs and expectations.