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People being over fussy about cat welfare

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Desdemona Wed 08-Jul-26 20:28:15

I have a cat. She is well fed and looked after and likes to go for a little wander about in the area most days.

I am also on a number of local Internet groups, Facebook groups etc. Every day there are numerous people posting that they have had a cat appear in their garden, who does the cat belong to, is it ok etc. Usually the post appears with a picture of a perfectly healthy cat.

The replies range from taking them to the local vet for a chip check, ringing the RSPCA, paper collars on the cat, etc.

Surely if a healthy cat appears in a garden they should be left alone to wander through? There never used to be this fuss around cats, they wander around don't they?

I can understand if a cat appears ill in some way, obviously.

Your thoughts?

Cossy Wed 08-Jul-26 20:32:51

It’s a hard one I guess with so many “house cats”. Our local Next Door Site is full of “missing” cats, 90% of whom stroll back home a few days later none the worse for wear.

Having four dogs, cats rarely wander into our garden and if they do, don’t stick around for long haha

MartavTaurus Wed 08-Jul-26 20:40:16

Our DD in London has a skinny rescue cat. He has always been so.
The batty neighbour keeps putting him in a box and taking it to the vet saying he is undernourished!

Leave the cats alone!

Desdemona Wed 08-Jul-26 20:40:50

Cossy

It’s a hard one I guess with so many “house cats”. Our local Next Door Site is full of “missing” cats, 90% of whom stroll back home a few days later none the worse for wear.

Having four dogs, cats rarely wander into our garden and if they do, don’t stick around for long haha

Absolutely Cossy!

Half the time the "missing cats" are probably ones that that some people assume are strays, and feed them etc (or worse, send them to the RSPCA which in the case of an older or unwell cat could result in them being euthanised.)

Cossy Wed 08-Jul-26 20:46:46

MartavTaurus

Our DD in London has a skinny rescue cat. He has always been so.
The batty neighbour keeps putting him in a box and taking it to the vet saying he is undernourished!

Leave the cats alone!

Oh that’s so annoying! Almost as annoying as people who insist on feeding other people’s cats!

Oreo Wed 08-Jul-26 20:46:50

It’s beyond ridiculous isn’t it? Cats enjoy having a wander, always have done.
It’s nosy neighbour syndrome.

Astitchintime Wed 08-Jul-26 20:59:52

Oreo

It’s beyond ridiculous isn’t it? Cats enjoy having a wander, always have done.
It’s nosy neighbour syndrome.

I just wish the blessed cats would wander elsewhere and NOT leave stinking little piles of poop in my garden!

pably15 Wed 08-Jul-26 21:12:13

cats wander..its what they do, If you start feeding a cat, he might not go home.

Desdemona Wed 08-Jul-26 21:18:05

pably15

cats wander..its what they do, If you start feeding a cat, he might not go home.

Which is what I suspect is half the reason for the "missing" cats around my way - it seems too coincidental that we have so many posts by people reporting their missing animal and then so many saying they have cats visiting their house and they are giving them fuss, food, etc.

Fallingstar Wed 08-Jul-26 22:50:11

We have a neighbourhood forum where people often post pics of cats they have seen wondering who the owner is. Why?
The cats look well fed, wearing collars with a bell sometimes. Then someone will pop up and say that is my cat please don’t feed her or similar.
Is very strange.
When I see cats in the garden or in the street it doesn’t give me any concern unless the cat looks mangy, too thin, with obvious wounds or infected eyes.
Signs of neglect.
We had cats for years and they roamed far and wide.

crazyH Wed 08-Jul-26 23:14:37

A few doors from me there’s a cat which loves to sit on my garden chair. The owner asked me not to feed it, which I don’t anyway. I loved it.
The owner decided to move out of the area, and believe me, the cat used to cross a few busy roads, but it still found its way to my garden chair. Gorgeous little thing. He/she hasn’t come round, for a few weeks. I hope he’s ok.

Doodledog Wed 08-Jul-26 23:15:04

We get this on our local FB page, too.

It's ridiculous, I agree. Who pays when a perfectly fit cat is kidnapped and taken to the vet? I've never had a cat of my own, but I'm sure I wouldn't be best pleased if I had one and a meddlesome neighbour caused me to have pay a vet to identify it when it had been happily prowling round the area.

We do get a lot of posts which are clearly signalling to everyone how caring and kindly the posters are though. One even took a photo of herself giving coffee to a homeless man, who then had to abandon his pitch because he owed someone money and was recognised. Ironically, his pitch was in front of an independent cafe, and the owner gave him free coffee all day away.

Posting about 'stray' cats, and dogs waiting in cars for the time it takes to post a letter seems to me to have similar motives.

Janussi Wed 08-Jul-26 23:17:21

Cats are pretty resilient. I should know. I would love one, but time for me to travel.

Madmeg Thu 09-Jul-26 00:52:45

Our much loved 19-year-old cat was being well looked after by my lovely cat-loving neighbour while we were away for a few days. Yes, he was old and not as shiny and quick as he had been in his prime, but he was perfectly happy with his lot.

A neighbour at the very bottom of our road spotted him near her house and took pity on him, fed and fussed him and decided to claim him to "give him a better life". It thoroughly confused him and just two days after we returned he plodded home and promptly collapsed in the hall and died. The vet was 100% certain that the stress of being fed in a strange house had prompted this.

MayBee70 Thu 09-Jul-26 02:01:01

I’ve lost several cats in the past and wish there had been an internet back then. It’s horrible when your cat doesn’t come home and you never find out what happened to it. It’s why I wouldn’t have a cat now as I tried having house cats but that didn’t seem right. My local Facebook page often reunites lost cats with their owners or sadly publicises a fatality that the owner would never have found out about. Cats do sometimes have a couple of homes on the go. I guess that’s why I only have dogs now as I worried too much about my cat not coming home. One of my cats was found in a neighbours wardrobe and my daughter’s cat got accidentally locked in someone’s shed. The first cat I had as an adult who I loved beyond belief just went and lived with someone else. They didn’t encourage it because they had cats of their own but he preferred living with them than me. They then passed him onto someone else and purely by chance they took him to the same vets that my husband was at with another cat and when his new owner went into a home we had him back.

Gracey Thu 09-Jul-26 02:27:12

Our beloved cat died a few years ago and we miss having a cat around the house.

Mr G was never a cat man until we met, some 20+ yrs ago. In fact he thought he didn't like cats. I wasn't having any of that. My two moggies ( long gone, alas) converted him, and since then we rescued one to share.

We adored her, Mr G spoilt her rotten, and when she died 15 yrs later we didn't get another, deciding the heartbreak was so awful, devastating, and we could at last take off at a whim without the cost and need for kitty care.

However, he's inadvertently become a cat whisperer.

I love his adoration for cats. He's in the garden most days and it's quite large. A neighbour's cat had taken to resting under the shade of shrubs but if The Man approached, the cat would take off. Over a few weeks the cat became more trusting...appearing whenever he heard Mr G in the garden.
It eventually came up for chin rubs, and would purr around his legs, then plonk itself down on the lawn in full sight to observe, groom, snooze and every so often obstruct his digging or wedding or whatever, to get a bit of fuss, which Mr G gladly gave.

No food was given, the cat wasn't encouraged into the garden but it obviously enjoyed the peace and quiet and company of Mr G.

Now...months later, it's on the feline grapevine that Mr G and the lady of the house are cat friendly.

Mr G now has the company of 4 neighbourhood cats most days, all well fed and looked after, who visit him regularly..

They arrive a bit timid but soon relax, sit under shrubs, roll around on the terrace, make themselves comfy on the lawn and generally make the garden their meeting place. They seem to know each other. The gardener has named for them too. We have Percy, Monty
Alan and Hammy.

Mr G is predictable. Named after tv gardeners.

They seem to enjoy being in the company of a cat man who'll talk to them, acknowledge them and not shoo them away. He'll leave bowls of water out, but we make a point of not feeding them, given we know all too well the worry caused when a beloved cat disappears from home.

The cats come and go and we never allow them into the house.

Mr G can't help being a pussy magnet. Ahem.

Last week we sat out in the garden after the sun had set and one by one our cat visitors appeared. The big Maine Coon ( Monty, but we don't know his real name ) from three doors down sat at my feet, Percy the chunky tabby watched us from under the Apple tree, Hammy, grey with blue eyes jumped on the table and sniffed our wine, and Alan, black, fluffy and the most imperious, viewed from afar, like a supervisor.

It was slightly Twilight Zone-ish but magical too, knowing these cats from round and about liked to hang out with us.

So yes, cats do wander and can be very sociable. This quartet have adopted Mr G and they've come to accept my presence in the garden too.

We feel honoured that we don't scare or unnerve them, but we are equally aware they have homes, so musn't encourage them to stray.

Cats do their own thing, and always have.

Greenfinch Thu 09-Jul-26 05:38:19

Lovely post Gracey. I can identify as I am a cat convert too.

Padstow13 Thu 09-Jul-26 06:01:13

I had a monster orange and lemon striped Tom who was a terriffic wanderer and gathered, as far as I knew, at least five 'other homes'.

When the schools broke up for summer I knew I wouldn't see him for about six weeks because a neighbour's daughter would be back from university and effectively "kidnapped" him until Uni started again.

MartavTaurus Thu 09-Jul-26 06:27:41

Lovely cat stories to start the day!
My neighbour might not feed my cat, but there are plenty of takeaways for him in his wild garden.

Witzend Thu 09-Jul-26 13:15:44

Cossy

MartavTaurus

Our DD in London has a skinny rescue cat. He has always been so.
The batty neighbour keeps putting him in a box and taking it to the vet saying he is undernourished!

Leave the cats alone!

Oh that’s so annoying! Almost as annoying as people who insist on feeding other people’s cats!

Our long gone cat (a very big boy anyway, and portly with it) had perfected a pathetic little ‘orphaned kitten’ mew, with one paw raised. No wonder he was being fed elsewhere, including next door, where there were often chicken/salmon leftovers from their many dinner parties.

I found out only after it had been going on for ages, that he was also visiting next door first thing every day, for a saucer of milk.

1summer Thu 09-Jul-26 13:54:00

A friends daughter had a cat who didn’t like to go into her house for very long. Just once a day for food. He used to wander around the local shops. He was featured often on local Facebook groups as a stray a number of people tried to “adopt” him.
His owner constantly posted dont feed him and don’t take him home. And had a tag saying “ don’t feed me”. He had a stomach problem and had daily medicine and a special diet.
A number of people thought owner didn’t look after him ( they definitely did) so bought him a bed that was put near the shops in a sheltered space. And gave him food, he died not long afterwards.

Mouse Thu 09-Jul-26 14:21:59

My daughter’s cat disappeared. My granddaughter in particular, was distraught. But time heals and they got a dog. Unable to face the risk of losing another cat.

Two years later they got a phone vsllyfr a local vet saying they had my daughter’s cat. Turned out an elderly lady had been feeding him for months then took him in. That’s where he had been for the last two years.

Because this cat is terrified of dogs ( to be fair he was frightened of his own shadow), my daughter said they could keep him. But it turned out he had complex health issues so they didn’t want to have to pay the vet fees.

To cut a long story short my daughter ended up paying for his veterinary care but the lady refused to allow my daughter or granddaughter to have any contact with him.

Eventually, they got a phone call saying the cats dead come and get him if you want him. Or else I’ll put him in the bin.

The whole event traumatised my granddaughter who is autistic and adored her cat.

Why can’t people leave other peoples cats alone?

sharon103 Thu 09-Jul-26 14:49:03

Desdemona

I have a cat. She is well fed and looked after and likes to go for a little wander about in the area most days.

I am also on a number of local Internet groups, Facebook groups etc. Every day there are numerous people posting that they have had a cat appear in their garden, who does the cat belong to, is it ok etc. Usually the post appears with a picture of a perfectly healthy cat.

The replies range from taking them to the local vet for a chip check, ringing the RSPCA, paper collars on the cat, etc.

Surely if a healthy cat appears in a garden they should be left alone to wander through? There never used to be this fuss around cats, they wander around don't they?

I can understand if a cat appears ill in some way, obviously.

Your thoughts?

How right you are. I would like a pound for every time I read about cats being seen in someones garden or cat gone missing Then a few days later that they've come home. So many lately.
Cats wander.

Barmeyoldbat Thu 09-Jul-26 15:45:52

We have always had just one at and never thought of having a second. But one night I found a kitten, about 1 year old trapped in our rubbish bin. He was in. Terrible state, untreated wounds, clogged up ears and an infection in his eyes. Also so very skinnny. So I fed him and took him to the vets to see if he was chipped. He wasn’t. So did all the normal things to try and find his owner. He had one because they wrote on his paper cooler he is my cat. But nothing was done about his neglect. After 3 months there was no improvement in him, in fact he looked worse and still not chipped. I put a note on his paper coller again saying I was going to feed him and take him to the vets for treatment. Their reply was they were to busy. So I did and he has ended up as lovely cat and I make no apologies for kidnapping him from someone who didn’t treat him him right.

Sparky51 Thu 09-Jul-26 15:53:56

Not everyone likes other peoples cats in their garden.Especially when they dig holes.and poop in there.I have 2 dogs..whose owner complains they chase her cats..well..keep them in your garden then.