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Self confessd Hoarder

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mamamags Fri 18-Nov-16 13:51:21

I have crafts and sewing as my hobbies and simply can't bring myself to throw or even give anything away . So because I am a compulsive buyer of anything related to my pastime I have a houseful of gadgets, card, paper, pens, scissors, die cutting machines, sewing machines, embroidery machines, overlocker. Not to mention wardrobes full of fabrics, and the list goes on and on

Now, Should I feel guilty about leaving my two grown up children, a lot, (and I mean a huge amount) of sorting out for when I depart to that higher place smile. Hubby just laughs when I mention this.

I'm in my middle seventies and neither of my kids or their offspring share my love of crafting even though they love to receive my crafty makes from time to time

mamamags Tue 22-Nov-16 12:49:29

You are definitely not on your own mrsmopp, especially going by the responses to this particular post. It appears that a good percentage of us are addicted to some type of this hoarding process The trouble with me is that I cannot resist a bargain and they keep piling up.

I really must be the answer to a salesman dreamgrin

mrsmopp Sun 20-Nov-16 22:36:11

I can't resist buying books and I think we have more books than some public libraries! I have a pile on the bedside table waiting to be read, and bookcases full of books I have read but I keep in case I want to read them again. I have books from my own childhood, books from my sons childhood etc
I've filled my shopping trolley and given them to Oxfam but it's made no impact.
I must be a bookaholic if that's the word. Surely I'm not alone?

Barmyoldbat Sun 20-Nov-16 02:17:41

I keep all the books I really enjoyed as I will read them again. A few books I have lent out to people and not been returned have been bought again! Just live books.

sedgwick20 Sat 19-Nov-16 21:54:08

Books seem to be attracted to me! I do pass them on once i've read them though

Smurf44 Sat 19-Nov-16 21:19:50

My OH's mum sadly died a couple of years ago. She had been a dressmaker and crafter for most of her life. One bedroom was packed floor to ceiling with all her craft stuff and the attic held many many banana boxes filled with material of every colour and type you could imagine. Then there were all the little treasures and ornaments she had acquired in her past 90 years. Not to mention all the beautiful porcelain dolls she had made and then dressed with fantastic clothes over the years. Then there was a garage plus a workshop both filled with her husband's tools etc etc which had not been touched in the almost 20 years since he died. My OH gave lots of the crafting stuff to his daughter (also a crafter) and his sister took many of the dolls and yet more boxes of material to her home abroad. I helped him to sell loads of his dad's tools and he threw lots of broken/rotten stuff away. Even so, his house is now crammed with stuff from his mum's house and he he has even hired a self-storage unit to store a vast amount of stuff, esp boxes and boxes of books. It seems like an insoluble problem. The last 2 years have been a strain on his health (he's rapidly approaching 70!) and our relationship but he can't bring himself to actually sell anything to clear his house and is still paying rental on the storage unit. Meanwhile my house is full of 60years of clutter and an ever increasing amount of card making stuff. MyDS is likely to skip everything when the time comes and decluttering seems impossible without a lot of help! We are both overwhelmed and it is just easier to go out sometimes and forget the mess at both houses. Maybe we should be on the Hoarders programme on TV! Aaagghhh. Oh, and my DGD lives permanently with me and adds to the clutter on a daily basis!

Charleygirl Sat 19-Nov-16 20:37:37

I vowed when I moved to this house that the loft would remain empty and to date it has. I am slowly getting rid of "stuff" by taking it to a local charity shop.

I once worked with a colleague who certainly did not hoard- she owned something like 6 pairs of knickers, ditto tops and trousers. She rented a room and it was almost devoid of anything personal. A bit OTT for me but I do not need the amount that I do possess.

Shizam Sat 19-Nov-16 20:22:34

I love having a good clear-out, can't stand having loads of stuff in the house. Just done 23 years' worth from under the stairs. Freecycle is a great way of getting rid of stuff to a new home rather than to landfill.

rosesarered Sat 19-Nov-16 19:47:38

Unless you are really elderly, (not 70) Just enjoy all of your things!
I appreciate all my bits and bobs.
When we go to our reward (!) the DC and DGC can take anything they fancy, and then the other things can be sold or given to a charity, or failing that, freecycle.

craftynan Sat 19-Nov-16 19:12:53

So many of us guilty of hoarding - makes me feel less guilty! A couple of people have already suggested donating to WI, schools etc. Can I suggest donating to groups such as Brownies, Rainbows, Messy Church all of which are run by volunteers and have limited budgets?

Morgana Sat 19-Nov-16 18:33:10

I have been trying to get rid of 'stuff' since I read those excellent ideas on a thread a little while ago. But my DH still hoards. He has loads of 'stuff' from when he was building an airplane!

Grandmama Sat 19-Nov-16 18:16:20

One day I might need all those empty yoghourt pots, face cream pots and small glass jars that baffle DH. About to be put into my sewing box is the cord from the carrier bag flower arrangement that I was given recently (along with other salvaged trimmings). I'm sure there will be a use in the future for the leather and metal trimmings that I cut from some worn out loafers. Throw something out and you find you need it next week. Shortly after DD1 took 40 years of old paint pots to the tip we found we needed two of them to match up some damaged paintwork. SiL1 refers to our garage as Aladdin's cave.

Barmyoldbat Sat 19-Nov-16 15:49:13

Yes I am a hoader, I have taken up alll sorts of hobbies, jewellery making, dress making, stain glass, wood turning, painting, you name it I have probably tried it. Lucky for me my son is also iinto craft and has taken over the stain glass stuff (and made a very nice stain glass window for the shed). He also paints so he collects a lot of my painting stuff. Now its just the piles of materials I have waiting to be made into somethng and the books I cant bear to part with. As my son is also a hoarder he will probably keep most of the stuff I leave behind when I pass on.

Theoddbird Sat 19-Nov-16 15:20:41

Decide on two or three crafts to do and get rid of the rest. Schools often want crafting supplies so you could donate to local schools. If you have a lot of fabric store it in vacuum pack bags as that will take up less space if sewing is a craft you want to continue.

Grannyknot Sat 19-Nov-16 14:53:02

mamamags young friends of ours moved into a flat which had been emptied by the children of the elderly woman who lived there, emptied except for a hoard of sewing stuff including sewing cotton in every conceivable colour, embroidery cottons (likewise), measuring tapes, buttons, scissors and all sorts of wonderful stuff all neatly sorted in old fashioned shirt boxes. From the prices some of it is pretty old.

You guessed it - the wife doesn't do "any of that" so they called me in and asked "Would you like it?" I fell upon the treasure trove and have made good use of it ever since.

I hope the original owner is smiling down on me from wherever she is smile

Jalima Sat 19-Nov-16 14:03:03

Freecycle?

schnackie Sat 19-Nov-16 14:02:46

Like many previous posts, I had to clear out my mum's 3 bedroomed house - in America - with just a few days off of my job here. Needless to say, I had to hire a skip and just dump so many lovely and useful items. The Salvation Army was the only charity that would pick up, and even then, only certain items. It was heartwrenching and I learned a valuable lesson. Some boxes and pieces of furniture were sent to my daughter, which was good, as I got a sense of what she thought was worth keeping and what was not (some were surprises to me!)So with that in mind, I have been consciencely (sp?) decluttering ever since I retired. I think I have mentioned on here before, that Save The Children have made many trips up to my 2nd floor flat to pick up bags and boxes of 'things' which has been a godsend as I don't have a car.

Jalima Sat 19-Nov-16 14:01:58

No! not the tip.
Even odd balls of wall from the charity shop can be useful for knitting toys, squares etc.

The only things I have ever regretted sending to the charity shop are some of DF's books.
The rest is gone and forgotten.

nipsmum Sat 19-Nov-16 13:58:12

I used to do card making and although I have free cycled a lot there is still a cupboard full that I can't bear to get rid of yet. 2 of my granddaughter's love going into my workroom and making things. I also knit mostly for charity now but sometimes for my 4 grandchildren and I still keep buying wool that takes my fancy and hoard it. I have several large bags stuffed full with wool which I keep trying to use but there is always some being added. I have told my daughter to give it to the charity shop when I no longer am able to do these fantastic hobbies.

annifrance Sat 19-Nov-16 13:47:18

Like you mamamags. At present I have joined forces with a likeminded friend and we have formed a small enterprise. We hold the occasional market and are creating a website, enlisted for Facebook,Etsy and Pintrrest. That way we can continuing doing what we like, earn a bit of money and hopefully keep a handle on the clutter in our homes!

I decluttered before we moved to France but it seems to have recollected. I do feel bad about my children havoihavoing to sort it out but I will tell them to take all the crafty stuff to the local school.

bikergran Sat 19-Nov-16 13:43:23

Please do consider the charity shops before throwing to the tip..especially crafty stuff, also wool any wool shape size or form it flies off the shelves within minutes.You wouldn't believe some of the stuff we have on the shelves .I think! who the heck would want that? but yes...someone somewhere usually does smile even the smallest thing.

Nelliemaggs Sat 19-Nov-16 13:43:13

I am an embarrassed hoarder though if I ever need to fix a toy or a screw goes missing I'm Nanny Fixit and can always find the part I need. I also love making things and adapting furniture and it is rare for me to need to buy anything in. My mother begged me not to let my brothers bin her collections of threads and bits and bobs and I made sure everything was passed in or recycled but when I told my DD that I was doing my best to sort and chuck my collections she said, "Don't worry Mum. I'll get those house clearance people in and they can take the lot" hmm

annodomini Sat 19-Nov-16 13:41:36

If all the books I have on Kindle were in hardback or paperback, I would need at least one new bookcase. So the Kindle has saved me from the effects of hoarding.

Sheilasue Sat 19-Nov-16 13:24:46

No I have a clear out every so many months.

Legs55 Sat 19-Nov-16 13:24:30

I have moved twice in the last 5 years, first from a large 4 Bedroom House with large Garden to a 2 Bedroom Park Home with Garage, we disposed of a great deal then & continued sorting through boxes after we had moved grin

After DH died I got rid of everything in Garage (saved on rent), DD's OH took all the tools. I moved to a 1 Bedroom Park Home, when I moved everything had to go into storage as I hadn't bought anywhere to live. With DDs help we sorted through boxes etc before anything came into new home (as far as possible), sold what was in good condition, Car Boot (DD again), Charity Shops & Bags. Books were the hardest to part with but I hadn't enough room for all of them, mostly to Charity as difficult to sell hmm

I have a large collection of Lilliput Lane Cottages & Giles Books, Annuals + other related bits - DD has already told me she will sell them grin. I have boxes under my bed with bits & pieces that hold memories which I go through occassionally trying to decide if I need to keep them.

DM has got rid of some furniture & possessions that she knows we don't want & she no longer needs/wants. I already have large Silver Tray which I bought for my Parents Silver Wedding Anniversary, DD & I have a few items which we will inherit, everything else sold or given away to Charity Shop or tip

Jalima Sat 19-Nov-16 13:21:16

re the plastic bins um er