Hello everyone - The secret is (as some of you have said) - let folks know before you go!
My dear Mum died nearly 2yrs ago but about 5 yrs ago we sat down and sorted out the complete details for her funeral. I had told her I had written down my wishes.
We laughed about it at the time because, as I said to Mum, my (grown-up) kids would have no idea of what hymns etc I would like and if they chose certain hymns I would be straight up out of my box to shoot the organist!
When Mum died, even though it was a beautiful peaceful death, we were still obviously devastated - but we had no problems with the funeral as it was all done and we knew it was exactly what she wanted.
I wore a navy blue suit - she hadn't specified a colour preference - but I believe she would have wanted a respectable rather than funeral-black as she was ready to go and had no fear.
As others have said - if in doubt check it out - as we were able to advise anyone who asked us and don't be afraid to ask!
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