Hardly get to see my grandson

Good advice here - can't do better. What a silly DIL not to take advantage of a loving gran and her extra pair of doting hands!

You have to say how you feel. If I say lets meet my daughters are perfectly happy to agree but never think to suggest it themselves although they see their father every week. Sometimes I think they just get into a habit and forget we have feelings too.

Also, offer to babysit and come along an hour before bedtime to help out, so they can get ready themselves. Best of both worlds, and you can keep popping in to adore the baby whilst he's sleeping

I do feel for you, Happygran, because as has been discussed on another thread, sometimes it seems as though the paternal gran comes second in the pecking order. Are you close to your son? Could you mention to him that you'd like to see your grandson more often? Perhaps you could offer to babysit on the occasional evening - just let both of them know that you are more than willing to offer help as well as those lovely cuddles.

I don't know about subtle Happygran, I tend to tell my daughter that I'm having pangs to see her twin babies if I don't see them for three or four days. I just long for their lovely cuddles, so I tell her outright, and she tuts at me and tells me I'd better come over. I used to say the same to my son, when grandson was tiny, and would drive over to their house which was 10 minutes away. Ex-DIL was quite frosty with me, but I always made myself useful and would change nappies or feed the baby, help the older children (from previous relationship) with homework, often turn up with something I'd knitted or bought, like packs of nappies or new babygrows. It worked well enough and I saw lots of my grandson.

Why don't you just speak out and say you can't bear to miss a minute, he is so gorgeous? Grandma cuddling baby whilst they can have a meal together, or pehaps even go out for a couple of hours, can be invaluable. Good luck