Photos of my children to send to grandparents - would you be offended

my DDs and their friends were, and now DGCs are, always stripping off! it's what kids do in all innocence and adults add their own hang ups!

One of my GP friends used to take her DD to surgery sometimes when she was little; and she finished up being there during a family planning clinic. Needless to say a few days later she was found playing Family Planning Clinics with her little friend - you do not need to know the details!!

Flower - I love the baby birds story. What a silly mum to get in a panic over it - what message does that send to the children?

I remember my son aged 3 playing upstairs with his little friend - female - her mum and I went to tell them it was time to go and they were sitting naked in a 'nest' made out of a duvet. My friend saw red grabbed the girl shouting at her. I quietly asked my little why they were naked, he replied that they were playing at being baby birds and that baby bird don't wear clothes - good enough for me. I think that so many people over react and read all the wrong things into innocent situations.

Why Happynanna? You did not expand on why you would disagree.

grannyknot I think that's totally ridiculous. If other people's children can never be in shot in a photograph, there are probably many places (like the seaside, a funfair, etc., etc.) where you couldn't take any photos.

I'm all for being sensibly vigilant, but, really, things are getting out of hand.

Don't know whether or not you've already sent the discs (as the post was back in March) but I'm afraid I don't agree with most of the replies. Personally, I would not send them. The very fact that you've asked the question means you're not comfortable with it either.

Good grief - how pathetic. My OH spends lots of time with his little GCn on/in bed chatting away, reading, laughing and cuddling. This warped "someone" who felt the need to talk such nonsense should have been sent away with flea in ear.

It is a shame when something so innocent can be misconstrued.

I remember my brother used to have long talks with his little granddaughter, usually sitting on his bed, when she would tell him all her secrets (her mother is a single parent). Some time later when I asked him if he was still having those talks he looked very sad and said that yes they were but now they had them sitting on a bench in the garden. Someone had pointed out to him that if she had gone to school and told everyone that she spent time with her Grandad on his bed it could be misconstrued.

I find this very sad

At the end of March last year we had a heatwave and 2 of my GC (4yrs & under) pranced naked in the garden as they sploshed each other with water! I have photos of this jolly afternoon.

If your families lived nearer they may be involved in more childcare which could include bathtime ..where they would see the children 'nudie rudie' as my g'kids say anyway.

Cannot see any problem in a normal happy family shot of kiddies naked. We cannot start with the default position that photos of naked children are a bad/dangerous thing. We do need to understand, and train our children, that they should never be made to have photos taken when they have been specifically asked to undress for them or when they feel in any way unhappy about it. They have a right to say no.

I am at a loss to imagine what sort of grandparent would find photographs of young children in the bath offensive. My father took a cine film of the two-year old me running stark naked down the beach back into the sea after my mother had removed my cosi to dry me. Neither of them would have batted an eyelid about photographs of naked grandchildren in the bath. I just wished they had lived long enough to see them.

Send them with an amusing covering note explaining what happened. Oh redblue sorry have repeated your comment. Oh well thats two

Well said ga and Bags.

Friends of ours visited here some years ago, their first time in London, and went to the Science Museum, where our friend was so excited to see some of the exhibits he happily started taking photographs, only to be viciously verbally attacked by a woman (not a staff member) accusing him of photographing her children.

He was totally bewildered and taken aback - oblivious that people may think he had ulterior motives, it had to be explained to him what was actually being suggested. Then he was horrified.

Hear, hear ga and Bags! Why should loving, protective parents and grandparents have their behaviour changed because of society's growing awareness about child abuse? This is normal, happy family life, and is to be celebrated.

Well said, ga. We worry too much nowadays about whether people will choose to be offended by this or that or whatever, forgetting that it's the people choosing to be offended by something innocent and innoffensive who have the problem.

How sad it is that this question is even being asked. It reminds me of a brand new adoptive dad telling me wistfully that he'd imagined bathing his children, but 'of course' he wouldn't be doing that with his newly placed children (both toddlers) - and his tears of delight and relief when I told him to go right ahead.
redblue I would send the CD's with a covering letter saying that one of the photo's shows the children in the bath and explain how you came to copy it - and then I would leave it to them what they decide to do with the CD. If they choose to be offended then hopefully you'll never know.

I`d send them, photos of my grandchildren with nothing on wouldn`t bother me, what`s to bother about?
But then again, the other week I was minding my 4 year old grandson at our house, and got him undressed and into his pyjamas for when his mum and dad came to pick him up, and as he took his underpants off, he laughed and said "Oh, put it away, put it away", when I asked who said that, he said "Nanny", so maybe some folk do mind?

I have just asked my very wise daughter about this, and she said she would not send them abroad as customs open every packet here and they might think they were indecent. She also pointed out that the grandparents should be warned not to post them on a public page of the internet, as paedophiles do trawl the net looking for 'innocent' photos.

I have lovely photos of my various grandchildren in different states of undress when they were toddlers - in the bath, at the beach, in the garden.......it has never crossed my mind to find them offensive.
However, as has been said, you know the grandparents best and asking them seems to be a good idea.
I feel that anybody who finds a child's naked body offensive (particular a family member) has a problem themselves.

Just thinking.... if you do it as a 'team', you'd maybe need to worry less.

Have you asked the children's dad what he thinks?

Hi redblue, I can't imagine grandparents being offended by seeing lovely pictures of young children in the bath. I agree with you, send the complete set to your own parents, and maybe ask them what they think. If they say send them on to the others, then do. If they think there's a chance off upsetting them, then don't.

I would just send them with a covering note to explain what happened.I frequently see my grandchildren naked but even if I didn't, photos of them in the bath certainly would not offend.I think our generation is more liberal than yours in this respect.

redblue

You sound a very nice person. It can be a tricky path to please everybody all of the time, you have sorted it out for the best I am sure.

I've photos of my sons [as a wee children] wearing nothing but a sunhat. They are natural, charming and beautiful.

redblue the response from Nonu is sound.

I've got a lovely one of my DGD in the bath, clutching her new stripes WELLIES,
She wouldn't be parted from them