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amandaward2 Thu 29-Aug-13 15:05:45

I am a grandma
My son has recently had problems seeing his daughter and to cut a long story short I'm in a mess as my granddaughter lives within 2 mins walking distance from my house and its killing me knowing we cant see her until it has gone through the courts.
Today my sons ex will have received a letter from the solicitors stating if contact is not permitted court action will be taken.
I cant cope please help!!!!

Greatnan Thu 29-Aug-13 15:11:24

You are not alone, Amanda. If you search for the 'Denied Contact' thread in the box at the top right of your page, you will find that many of us are in similar situations. There are some hopeful posts from people who have managed to be reconciled with their family, or have been granted access through the courts.
Good luck - I hope it comes right for you.

amandaward2 Thu 29-Aug-13 15:30:51

Thank you so much flowers

amandaward2 Thu 29-Aug-13 15:33:25

I know this sounds silly but I really how no idea how to work this. where is my page??

bluebell Thu 29-Aug-13 16:01:10

This page

bluebell Thu 29-Aug-13 16:02:23

And it didn't sound silly!

Gorki Thu 29-Aug-13 16:07:25

You could also look at "cut out of their lives". You will find it at the end of the last day threads. Click this at the top of this page.

Ariadne Thu 29-Aug-13 16:29:56

amanda do try to find the "denied contact" thread! I am sure you will be helped by knowing you are not alone in your troubles. My heart goes out to you.

I notice that you have posted the same message on several threads (a thread is a conversation on a certain topic) and if you find the conversations you need then you can "talk" to people and ask for help.

I do hope this helps - keep asking and we'll keep helping. flowers

Greatnan Thu 29-Aug-13 16:44:30

You can also send a private message to other members. Just click on their name and you will see 'Private Message' in the box next to their name.
Don't be nervous - we all had to learn how to use the site when we first joined.
At the top of any page you will find a blue box with the word 'Forums' and if you click on that you will get a list of all the different areas we cover - like relationships, health, chat, etc.
If the name in the box above our message is blue, you can click on it and see our profile, where we tell members a little about ourselves.
I have had an enormous amount of sympathy and support with my own family problem and I am sure you will find the same.
Send me a private message (pm) if you would like any more help on using the site.

annodomini Thu 29-Aug-13 17:00:39

Click here for Denied Contact.

Movedalot Thu 29-Aug-13 17:08:23

Amanda I do wish you luck with this and hope it all works for you and your son. I don't have any advice but you have my best wishes flowers

Eloethan Thu 29-Aug-13 18:12:40

This situation must be really difficult for you. I hope things get better soon.

Flowerofthewest Fri 30-Aug-13 17:46:52

My son has been denied contact for 5 years now. He has fought in courts many times - each time the judge decreed that he see his children, they were 7 and 4 at the time. Each time the ex refused, she tried every trick in the book and the judge saw through her each time. Even accusing my son of being a Class A drug user and alcoholic. He was tested and was 100% clean.

To save a lot of expense we used a MacKenzie Friend. These are people who either give their time and expertise for either a small fee or just expenses. They can support you in court and advise you but not speak for you. They are wonderful.

pinkprincess Tue 10-Sep-13 20:42:32

Hello Amanda

My heart goes out to you.I was in a similiar situation 13-15 years ago.My son and his first wife divorced and him and us were denied access to our three oldest grandchildren for two years.It broke my heart.DS eventually took his ex to court and was given access again.
I wish all the best and hope you get to see your grandaughter very soon.

LizG Tue 10-Sep-13 21:57:38

My heart goes out to you all in this situation. I have tried four times to reply and deleted each attempt. I just want you to know that that wives can have problems too despite trying very hard to be reasonable regarding access. We have had an horrendous summer if the truth be told.

kittylester Wed 11-Sep-13 07:13:33

Lizg and everyone else suffering in this way (((hugs))) and flowers