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Christmas Dilemma

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Neeny Thu 21-Nov-13 23:11:46

Thanks for the advice shysal. That's exactly what I thought but a friends comments yesterday made me waiver hence the ?

hummingbird Thu 21-Nov-13 23:11:12

Hello, Neeny! I agree with * Shysal*, and would spend the same amount on all of them. They're only children, and it would be wrong to potentially make them feel less important, or less loved than the others. I'm sure your son and his partner will be pleased too. Good luck, whatever you decide!

shysal Thu 21-Nov-13 22:46:58

I would spend the same on every child, even if it meant cutting down the amount for each one. I should imagine the 'step' GCs will be pleased to feel an important part of the family. They are lucky to have such caring people to surround them at Christmas. You must be relieved that both sons are now settled.
Congratulations on your first post, Neeny,I look forward to reading your future contributions now that you have broken the ice.

Neeny Thu 21-Nov-13 20:44:26

Hello to all Gransnetters. I have been a member of the site for a while but this is my first forum post. I apologise in advance if this post is long.

I have two sons, who between them have given me four gorgeous grandchildren. My youngest son is in a stable marriage while my oldest son has had bad luck with the women in his life and is no longer with the mothers of either of his two children.

He is now in what I feel to be the best relationship of his life. His partner of nearly two years is wonderful. She is family orientated (we are a close family). She brings out the best in him, she obviously cares deeply for him and she gets on well with everyone in the family.

She has three children of her own ranging in age from 12 to 2. We get on very well with the kids and recently the youngest two have asked to call us "Gran" and "Papa". We are very pleased about this and are hopeful of a long and happy future.

This is their second Christmas together, but the first they have spent as a couple within our extended family. We, like many other families set a budget for each of our grandchildren and buy them gifts in line with that. My dilemma...... Should we spend the same amount on the three new additions to our family?