Introductions - a thing of the past?

Should have added I cut all my nettle down today as DGD was playing in garden. So no nettle tea today have to buy some crap from shop.

I prefer to drink it or leave it growing high so any intruders will get a surprise if they come into my garden.

I believe some masochists use bunches of it to whip themselves with. Only the tough ones, of course.

Anyone tried nettle tea, very soothing. the real stuff not dried crap from a shop.

I replied on here as well as to your other grumpy reply because you made me so annoyed. You were doing more than not being a shrinking violet, you were giving a good impression of a healthy bed of stinging nettles.

Ana, I was p...taking. No one would want to go to Winter Gibbet.( well apart from me but then I love remote places).
There are some lovely country pubs with scenery to die for and I wondered why someone would go to the city when we can go there anytime.

Actually, Silverfish, you did suggest meeting up at Winters Gibbet near Eglingham on that meet-up thread earlier this month. No takers so I suppose you were miffed.

I don't know about anyone else having been on the tipple...

I feel sorry for the elderly mum!

Elegran I was not aware that it is a crime to refer to another thread so I wont be reporting you. I had not mentioned the meet up before now as I thought it was already arranged so I did not have any choice in the matter. I was reading through the posts (I often do without adding to them) and started to think that maybe I should add my opinion as I am entitled to. I think that everyone on here thinks we should all be of the same opinion. If you don't fit in or agree with the majority then you are ignored or get a nasty remark. A balanced debate is healthy and surely that's what everyone wants.
Also why did you not reply to the 'meet up' thread, why reply on this one?
Maybe Friday night already on the tipple .lol

That is the "It never did me any harm to be beaten daily by sadists and fed on bread and water, so that is how I am treating my children" argument.

Those days...? I think a great many of us went to school in the early 60s. Never heard of the staff punching pupils, though...

I was a cripplingly shy child due to a neglectful upbringing and have never been an attention seeker i hope.

Ana, I went to school in the early 60s and you got thumped by staff, ridiculed and name called if you did not fit in, it was a normal sec mod.
I failed the 11 plus but after leaving school I went to college and got 5 gce at good grades. We had to be tough in those days and I remember a shy girl who had no life but wee didn't feel sorry for her she just had to get on. I met her recently and of course shes a granny now and shes as tough as old boots, fights for her family like anyone else. You had to be tough to survive in those days. Not a case of being a chip on the shoulder just realistic.

You prefer bluntness? So why did you feel "insulted" that a meet-up in which you had showed absolutely no interest at all was organised by a very busy gransnetter on a day and in a place that you could not attend? Is that not a very effective way of attracting attention? Very bad attention, as there are many people who will think you rude and selfish, but it achieved the aim. It sounds VERY like attention seeking to me!

You have been noticed. Well done!

Now you can report me for referring to another thread. OK. If this is deleted I will still have said what I think, not been a shrinking violet.

What kind of school was it you went to that would tell you rubbish like that, Silverfish? You do seem to have a very big chip on your shoulder...

Its not a case of being in a bad mood, just cant stand shrinking violets

Yes, you are definitely in a bad mood today.

Its an inverted form of attention seeking because they think we will be kinder to them without their having to make an effort. We were told that shyness was just an act when I was at school and to ignore anyone playing along and Ive always believed it.
After all if you want something or need something you should go out and ask for it, but a shy person will hope others will help them or ask on their behalf.
I have a friend like this, she will not go out, her friends have to come to the house and ask her, she still wont go, then her friends threaten to drag her out and eventually she gets dressed and goes unwillingly with them for a night out where after a while she enjoys herself as they all go to the bar for her as she is too shy to go , they bring her food as she wont go to a buffet alone and they have to take her home as she is too shy to go on public transport.
My elderly mother always said she would never go to a bar alone as it was always a mans job to seek drinks so I told her if she would not take her turn she would sit without a drink or food, the next time we went out she queued at the bar like anyone else. I really cant stand shrinking violets, why should I put up with it, no-one would with me!!!

Oh Silverfish are you in a bad mood today? I have just read your grumpy response to the meetup that glassortwo has been planning.

Shyness a means of gaining attention? That must be a windup! The last thing that shy people want is attention. Complete invisibilty would be preferable.

Silverfish*
but we all know that shyness is a form of attracting attention!

I am sorry to be quite so blunt but to suggest shyness is a form of attention seeking is a load of b******S.

I was very shy when I was younger, it makes you feel that if you do try to introduce yourself no one will take any notice of you and you will be rejected.

silver I don't think that shyness is a form at attention seeking at all. My daughter was very shy as a child and she is 35 this year and she is definitely shy and far from an attention seeker, she still blushes like a teenager when the spotlight falls on her. And she hates it.

I like Nfk's solution.

Shyness a form of attracting attention? Do you really think so?

Whats wrong with introducing yourself, I just say Hi, Im......and give a grin, it works everytime. I cant stand people who want to sit back and wait to be introduced, my mother is like this and says she is shy but we all know that shyness is a form of attracting attention, hoping that people will notice a person who is sitting quietly in the background and the shy person doesn't have to make an effort to reach out to anyone.

I've stopped introducing people myself mainly because my mind generally goes blank and I forget one or both names! And I never did master who should be introduced to whom first.

I like the American trend to introduce yourself. You know who you are and whether or not you've met the other person before.

It's definitely dropping out of fashion. Partly I think because the americans are taught to introduce themselves, I remember when I was young thinking how pushy they were! But it makes sense. DBH has very good manners, but he always seems to assume that I already know everyone wherever we go. Not so and I am dreadful at remembering who people are and if I have ever seen them before, let alone what their names are.

Now, I just say loudly 'Aren't you going to introduce me?' or 'Hello, I'm Jane' so that they then have to introduce themselves, whilst gritting my teeth in a rictus grin at DBH.