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Frannygranny Sun 21-Sept-14 18:31:58

posie I'm so sorry to hear how difficult life is for you at the moment. I had counselling after a second breakdown and found it extremely helpful. The counsellor was non-judgemental and always seemed to ask just the right question to open the floodgates to discover what was troubling me. I still take ant-depressants and will do for the rest of my life but I have discovered why my problems occurred and can now accept them. I wish I had had counselling sooner. Please seriously consider it. It will do no harm and hopefully will make you feel better. flowers

kittylester Sun 21-Sept-14 18:29:54

I'm sorry you are not happy posie. (((hugs)))

Are you sure the things you read were really pre his diagnosis? Looking back Mum was acting strangely for years and years before we thought she might need some help.

DD didn't have a very long wait for CBT and had 6 sessions so, if you can get an initial course fairly quickly on the NHS, it might be worth giving it a try.

Talk to us if it helps in the short term. flowers

Mishap Sun 21-Sept-14 18:22:54

This sounds like a situation where it really might be helpful to talk to someone outside the family, and a counsellor would fit the bill. As well as trying to help you with your depression problem, they could give you an outside perspective on the items that you have unearthed that are adding to your distress.

There is sometimes quite a wait to obtain counselling on the NHS, so if you are able to afford it, then you may need to think about going privately.

Counsellors vary in their approaches and methods and it might be worth you doing a bit of an internet trawl about the types of possible approaches so that you can think about what might help you best.

I am sorry that life is not treating you well at present. Do keep posting.

posie Sun 21-Sept-14 18:15:34

Has anybody had first hand experience of counselling? If so did it help?

My GP suggested it on Friday but I said I couldn't really see how talking would help. I got another months worth of anti depressants but have managed to stop the sleeping tablets & thought I was improving slightly.

However yesterday While clearing out some of OH stuff & clutter I found some things that he'd written (pre Alzheimer's) that have completely shocked & upset me. I want to go & confront him & have it out with him, but of course that is completely out of the question now. I was going to have visited him this afternoon prior to this (he's in hosp in dementia unit) but couldn't bear to as I'm too cross & upset with him at the moment.

I've spoken to my kids about it & they're very supportive but it's not enough. Don't know how to get over this. Having second thoughts about counselling. Anyone any ideas?