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new2me Fri 07-Nov-14 15:13:00

Help, please. We have our baby Grandson visiting for Christmas with his Mummy and Daddy and they are bringing their dog, our Grandson has just started crawling. We also have my daughter and her boyfriend and their dog staying for Christmas. We also have a dog!!!
I am so excited about the thought of us all spending time together but very nervous about having 3 doggies and a baby crawling. I have said that the Lounge room should be "DOG FREE" at least whilst our Grandson is in there I don't want it to spoil Christmas, my husband is even more concerned as our dog/daughters dog are not use to babies or small children. Our Grandson lives at the other end of the Country from us, so want to make it special.
Any tips would be so very much appreciated.
Thank you

Iam64 Mon 10-Nov-14 09:05:44

granjura, you seem determined to be a profit of doom in this situation. None of the comments from those of us offering suggestions to new2me have suggested she has an easy task ahead.
You're correct in pointing out my last post says we have no young children/babies in our family currently ( sadly ). I'm well into my 60's now, and happy to say that over the years our family has been blessed with babies and children, alongside our dogs. There has never been a dog fight or any dog behaving in a threatening way towards family members, including little ones.

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 09-Nov-14 21:20:07

I think I might be in password mode - where you have to include a number. hmm

soontobe Sun 09-Nov-14 20:51:47

No worries! grin
I had never thought of my name written in that way before!

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 09-Nov-14 20:48:52

Oh I'm so sorry. I meant *new2me^. (They rhyme a bit don't they?grin

soontobe Sun 09-Nov-14 20:33:11

I think you have me confused with the op?

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 09-Nov-14 20:21:51

You seem to have made up your mind about anyway soon2be, without any advice from us. So, I wish you and, more importantly, the baby, luck with it.

granjura Sun 09-Nov-14 19:41:17

Without young children- the situation is totally different though.

Iam64 Sun 09-Nov-14 19:38:04

Glad to see you came back new2me, and the safety gate plan is in hand.

I'm with Tegan, a long walk with everyone, and their dogs. My experience of introducing new dogs,including a number of slightly bonkers foster dogs, has been that walking the dogs together, before the new dogs enter the existing dogs home is a real help. Start the walk on lead, with the aim of arriving at a place where the dogs can mix off lead. You can assess how they'll get on by watching them get to know each other. Our plan on Christmas day is to walk all the dogs together, put mine in their comfortable place, and allow my sisters young dog to stay with us. We don't have any infants, so we have less to worry about than you do.

Wishing you all the very best for this special day. I do hope it all goes well smile

Nonu Sun 09-Nov-14 19:19:16

May I be so bold as to say , EVERYBODY should muck in, blow men going of to the pub, certainly would not happen in my house, for sure , I am not a slave !!

Tegan Sun 09-Nov-14 18:59:14

Well, the menfolk could take the dogs on a long walk to the pub [that's what tended to happen in our family!].

Nonu Sun 09-Nov-14 18:40:24

That of course is a good suggestion, about taking the dogs for a loooong walk, but of course leaves the OP cooking the dinner wjthout any help.

If she is happy with that fair enough , I don"t think I would, there is so much to do, and many hands etc. just saying.
smile

granjura Sun 09-Nov-14 18:27:15

What breed, size and sex are they new2me?

Deedaa Sun 09-Nov-14 17:55:48

I would say don't expect everything to go wrong, but be aware of the things that could go wrong and plan accordingly. I think Tegan 's idea of a long walk for the dogs is great, with luck they'll all have fun together and you'll have a bit of peace and quiet to get everything organised for lunch.


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rosequartz Sun 09-Nov-14 17:21:04

I think even the mildest-natured dog could be unpredictable if put into a different situation - if each dog is used to being the only dog in the household and is suddenly put into a situation with two others they could all be jockeying for position as 'leader of the pack'. If the baby is getting lots of attention then the other two dogs (perhaps not his own) could get jealous.

Are they a fair size, new2me, as my dog could have squeezed through a stairgate!

glammanana Sun 09-Nov-14 14:01:01

I would have said kennels and pay the cost myself but as Tegan mentioned there is the cost of Kennel Cough treatment to be sure they don't get or pass something on.
I would be unsure about three dogs who don't now each other and sleeping to-gether (or will they be separated) but I hope it works out for you new2me as I know you must be looking forward to having your DGS with you this xmas.

Tegan Sun 09-Nov-14 12:00:35

I have a cunning plan. How about planning the day around the dogs [and probably baby as well] going for a very long walk on Christmas morning while granny cooks the meal. Baby will probably sleep. Dogs will get back cream crackered and will crash out for the rest of the day, but baby refreshed from long nap will be wide awake. I think the daughter with the boyfriend and the dog would feel sad spending Christmas without their dog [and possibly a little bit left out]. Of course, I'm working on the assumption that it won't rain all day.

Tegan Sun 09-Nov-14 11:30:43

Might not be as simple as that; if the dogs don't go into kennels usually they will have to be kennel coughed and that's not cheap.

Mishap Sun 09-Nov-14 11:11:14

Pay for the kennels yourself? - might be worth it to have a peaceful time.

new2me Sun 09-Nov-14 11:08:27

Wow, my first ever time of asking for advice and I seem to have opened up the floodgates so to speak.

On thinking about it, of course this should be expected, there was always going to be a difference of opinion.

We shall be six adults who all will be putting the baby first, it's the cost of Kennels for my adult children that's the issue. Fortunately it is possible to separate our GS from the dogs, he is used to his own dog of course, it's ours and my daughters that I've been most anxious about. We have stair gate to put across the Lounge room door so that the dogs can see us.

I am still anxious, maybe in part because it's Christmas and we are all coming together - it doesn't happen as often as I'd like as we are spread around the country. Wish us well with this please.

Absolutely overwhelmed by people taking the time to respond to my worries and concerns, thank you all.

petallus Sun 09-Nov-14 08:45:50

If it were me, I would ask the opinion of my children on this one.

I would expect my grandson's parents to be primarily responsible for his safety and take my lead from them.

I would feel responsible for the behaviour of my own dog though.

soontobe Sun 09-Nov-14 03:08:22

new2me - I hope you have a wonderful christmas with your gs, no matter which way you decide to work things out.

Deedaa - I didnt know all that. Thank you for the information.
Remarkable what behaviour some humans choose to do.

Soutra Sat 08-Nov-14 23:54:01

I am the biggest softie dog person out there but recognise that there are times when dogs and large numbers of people including tinies can be fraught. Much depends on the layout of your house e.g.is there an area like a utility where dogs can be kept at a distance if necessary. For the dogs' sake too proximity to chocolates/nibbles/toys could actually be harmful to the dogs and a nuisance if Rover scoffs all the Pringles. A dog-free room seems the minimum and of course the bottom line is "my house - my rules" I don't think you can have hard and fast rules and while our labrador went most places with us that is to dog loving homes, she was an especially placid easy going dog. Since having greyhounds we have tended to use the kennels they came from where they were/are known and while perhaps not ecstatic at going in are at least used to it. Grace is far too big to take to most places and actually settles better in kennels than she would if shut away from the rest of the family.

GrannyTwice Sat 08-Nov-14 23:35:00

My dd has been attacked by dogs twice - once aged 2 ( it was my dog and I had him destroyed immediately - she had to have stitches in her face under a ga and a stay in hospital ) and again at age 9 at a friends house - totally unprovoked- again a late night visit to A and E and stitches in her head. She was lucky both times ( relatively). The situation posited by the OP is fraught with potential problems - why risk it?

Deedaa Sat 08-Nov-14 23:09:43

soontobe there are people out there actively trying to change dog behaviour and bring out the aggressive, not to say savage, side of them. If you couple that with dogs being inbred and kept in bad conditions you've got a disaster waiting to happen. Rottweillers are another example of a breed that used to be known as a friendly family dog. Owned by a violent thug it can become a killer. This is why places like Battersea are so very careful about rehoming some of these breeds. The Dogs Trust has many dogs that stay with them permanently because they are not suitable for rehoming.

Penstemmon Sat 08-Nov-14 22:55:57

I am not a great dog lover i.e I would not choose to share my home with one, but if I meet a dog at a friends house I ma happy to pay it some attention. Just putting my position re dogs!!

Here we have three lots of dog owners, 3 dogs plus a baby. I can only imagine potential difficulties. Two of the visitors are the OPs children. Why not just send a joint email to them both expressing concerns about safety & hygiene re the crawling baby and 3 dogs, space etc & let parents and auntie think about it and come up with a solution? Put the ball back in their court!