No you are not the only one Harrigran I mentioned the increased risk of SIDS in an earlier post.
Lack of public toilets in towns.
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SubscribeMy little grandson age 18 months has been co sleeping with his parents since birth. This suits them very well. Child goes to bed at around 9 or 10pm and sleeps until anywhere from 8 to 10ish. He is a delightful child, very happy and good natured. He makes all his assessments with flying colours.
He was breast fed until at least 9 months, and could possibly still be breast fed......I haven't asked about that. They live very far away and we skype once a week and email regularly.
Talking about a future trip home I mention our travel cot and was told it's not needed....xxx will be sleeping with mum and dad.
Baby is being brought up in a very caring way, only milk and water, no juice. No sugar. Has never tasted chocolate or anything sweet. Is a great eater...Well into his fruit and veg. Only got shoes last month. Never used any baby walking aids because these are thought not
Ia good for baby's back. Both parents are highly educated and employed professionals. Their working hours ate arranged so that paid childcare isn't needed. They can adjust working hours to suit. Very occasionally they call upon a nanny who comes to their home for the day.
They are well paid, own their own home. They are not materialistic in that their car is 10 years old, eat organic food only.
As I write this I'm feeling quite proud of their parenting.
They are probably a little hippyish. Don't iron clothing. Don't own an iron or a television.
There is just a little wonder in my mind, is it all a little too much 'different.'
I would never say anything negative to them regarding parenting or way of life. After all, it appears to work very well. Baby was born when parents 40ish.
A comment from a friend referring to them (kindly) as treehuggers just caused me to step back and ponder.
Still co sleeping at 18 months.
No little cartoons for baby.
Likely to be still breastfeeding at 18 months.
I'm quite content that they have their own style.
Just out of interest. What do other gnetters think. ?
No you are not the only one Harrigran I mentioned the increased risk of SIDS in an earlier post.
Young friends of ours had a premature baby who came home on oxygen and a sleep monitor. They bought a co-sleeping cot which is 3 sided and placed right up to the side of the parents' bed. It allowed them to keep a very close eye on their tiny baby without actually having her in the bed or taking it in turns to sit beside her cot.
I didn't put on children's tv which i think is inane
Oh dear, I do like Peppa Pig
and Mister Maker
and Mr Tumbles
(we don't watch very much, I hasten to add!)
My GDs are 8 now but used to love Peppa Pig - so did I! They'll still watch it now (we've got a couple of DVDs) if they feel like a bit of comfort-viewing.
Mr Tumble was a great favourite too.
Certainly not 'inane' in my opinion.
DGD is coming over tomorrow, I can watch Peppa Pig without feeling guilty!
(she's 3)
You can learn quite a lot from Peppa Pig
The storylines are quite moral and feel-good-ish, aren't they?
I do love Daddy Pig!
Another Peppa Pig fan here!
Co-sleeping is thought to increase the risk of SIDS only if:
the adults are smokers;
the adults are drunk;
the adults have taken drugs;
the adults are obese.
Recent research has suggested that additional risks include co-sleeping with adults who are not the parents and co-sleeping with very young parents.
NOT 'only if'
Yes, those above do increase the risk but perhaps this will make the picture clearer. You may not recognise the name Lullaby Trust Absent as it changed its name The Foundation for the Study of Infant Deaths (FSID) possibly after you left the UK.
Link didn't work.
Love Peppa Pig
Link works OK for me. Are others finding it doesn't work?
Worked OK for me.
Thanks Ariadne - I'm never sure these links are going to work.
My DGD is 9 months old and my DD rented a bed nest from the NCT to use for the first few months - all the advantages of co-sleeping with none of the risks. You get a new mattress with each rental.
Just googled NCT bednests Vegas - what a clever idea.
Brilliant Anya isn't it?
Excellent. And to be able to hire them too.
My DGD is 18 months and still co-sleeps and breast-feeds on demand. She is a very happy and contented child but doesn't sleep well at all. DD has a disability - prosthetic leg - so co sleeping suits them well because it would be difficult to remove and fix her leg every time she got up for DGD. She is happy at night but decides about 4am that it's party-time and one of them has to take her downstairs so the other can sleep. Not great, and they are exhausted, but still feel it's best for them all.
DGD was never given 'baby food' or any kind of mushy stuff, though they did cut things up small for her. She was encouraged to choose foods from a selection they prepared for her (baby-led weaning). The high chair wasn't much used - she sits at the table on a booster seat and usually they eat together.
They also do 'baby signing' and 'attachment parenting' - I am still learning about this and sometimes think with amusement of how some ideas are 're-marketed' as new when they simply have another name.
I'm still in two minds about the signing but there is no doubt that she communicates well and understands a huge amount even though she doesn't say many 'real' words. She's confident and gregarious and a sheer delight.
Our baby-rearing was different in some ways, but they are excellent and loving parents and DD does a lot with her and also takes her to different groups with other mothers and toddlers/babies. It's not easy for her with her disability (she also has sight in one eye only and a hand deformity) but I'm so proud of her for being such a good mother (though she thinks she's rubbish!)
Coolgran, your family sound great!
The official advice about TV (discourage TV until 2) is from the American Association of Pediatrics - it's not that it 'over stimulates' so much, it's because it is not interactive, and babies and toddlers need responses and to be able to influence what they see and hear (one reason why smartphones and iPads are so beguiling to even very young children).
Anya I'm on Kindle, perhaps that's why link not picking up.
Elena thanks for that information.
I would be a proud mum too rowantree .you did a good job bringing up your DD and making her so independent. Some parents of children with a disability just want to wrap them in cotton wool. She is a credit to you.
Baby signing is brilliant rowantree Life is so much easier if a baby who can't speak yet can make himself understood. With GS1 and 2 we started off with Milk, More, Yes, and Biscuit and went on from there. You can have surprisingly long conversations with a signing baby and of course you have to give them a lot of attention because you can't just listen with half an ear like you can with speech. GS2 is 26 months now and beginning to string words together but he still has a tendency to use speech to clarify his signing if I'm being particularly dim.
I've just spent the afternoon with my almost 16 months DGD - she is using signs and loves it when you understand what she means. She's particularly keen on animals - signs for dog,cat, monkey and mouse used appropriately. Today in the library she pointed at a book on a high shelf and signed dog - it had a dog on the cover. It's great fun for both of us.
coolgran probably... Kindles can be weird.
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