Grandaughter

DD had the same problem when she got her first full-time job and went from weekly to monthly pay. We didn't think twice about advancing her enough money to get through the month and she repaid us over a period of six months.

The alternative is that she has to take an unauthorised overdraft, might take out a pay day loan or resort to other borrowing to get her through the month that then gets her enmeshed in debt because of the horrendous interest rates, penalty charges and will damage her credit record.

Lend it to her and point out to your DH what the alternatives will be if you do not help her.

My DH would give our DGC our last penny and I am not exagerating. He/we are not money orientated and we would both rest easier knowing we had been able to help out a little bit. As for paying back, if it happened it happened. I would never fall out with anyone over money.

My mother had a jewish friend who just managed to get out of the back door before the Gestapo came in the front.

They arrived penniless in UK despite having substantial property in Germany.

Her mantra was

'Give while the hand is hot and not cold' Its mine too

Oh yes. Let her have the money. Men are often a bit unwilling to part with cash. It's typical that he had come round by the morning.

Give her the money! - better to see her getting the benefit of it now than wait until you are dead!

I am just off on a holiday with most of the family and I have rented all the accommodation so I can enjoy seeing them having fun and enjoying a holiday they could not otherwise afford.

It sounds as though yo0ur OH has come round to the idea of this loan so I would not worry about it. Men can be funny about money. Thankfully my OH is of the opinion that we should share some of what we have accumulated with our family - he has PD and thinks he will not last long (a bit of a pessimist!) and wants to help them all while he can.

I don't see a problem lending her the money if it won't leave you short.

If paying it back is a problem couldn't she spread it over a couple of months?

I think its important to get the principles of lending/giving money to family firmly established between you and your husband before agreeing to any short term loans/gifts so a sit down chat is needed urgently. Of course you want to help her I would too but I always square it with DH first before I hand over any money. I did think its going to be difficult for her to pay you back as that will make her short at the end of next week. I wondered if you had thought of giving any family members some of what they would inherit ahead of time to get them straight and settled so that then there would be no further need of loans.