Help- my MIL doesn't trust me

This might help.

www.psychologytoday.com/blog/mate-relate-and-communicate/201311/how-handle-your-monster-in-law

Frazzleddil. Oh dear! It seems your MIL cannot see good fortune when it's staring her in the face.

You come across as kind, considerate and accommodating. As for measuring up to her, you've no need to turn yourself inside out to please her. Not easy, I know, but you have your DH's support, and he married you for who and how you are, not a puppet on a string to accommodate your MIL's expectations.

Carry on as you are. You're going a grand job.

She sounds like the MIL from hell. You have done everything you can be tbh you're probably banging your head against a brick wall.

Your DH says she was an overbearing mother and now she's an overbearing MIL. Like Stansgran says just say her ideas are interesting etc then do your own thing because no matter what you do it won't be right.....she's that sort of person.

I'm amazed at your patience tbh. Her emails and texts to your DH are totally out of order and as for wearing black to your wedding and crying in the toilet...well words fail me (and that doesn't happen very often).

As far as I'm concerned you've bent over backwards to accommodate her. Now live life your way but leave the door open in case she ever realises what she's done and tries to change.

Oh my goodness, frazzle, she sounds awful and you can stop trying to please her now, surely!

If your dh wants a relationship with her, then of course you can't do anything about that....but there's no reason to tie yourself in knots trying to work out what makes her happy.

You might want to think very seriously about how far to be in touch with her when you have the baby, too. Why subject a baby to her nastiness?

I would have severed all contact at the first critical message to your DH, I think, and if she had survived that, wearing black and sobbing in the toilets at your wedding would have put the last nail in the coffin!

Don't treat her as a relative treat her as politely as you would a complete stranger. It got me through some difficult years . Glue a smile on and say How interesting a lot. Repeat an instruction on how to furnish a nursery with a do you think so? What a good idea. Then go your own way.

It's your MiL that has the problem not you.
Unfortunately some mums just don't want to give up their little boys. You can't look after him the same way she would There have been threads on here from MiL saying just that.
I feel for you, all you can do is continue to be sweetness and light, bite your tongue and wait. Don't take her texts to heart. It's great that your DH is supportive of you. Maybe the three of you could have a discussion on neutral ground. I don't think it's personal. Your just more important to him now than she is. As I say her problem.