The annual wedding present cash gift dilemma....

We are going to a niece's wedding this weekend. There is a John Lewis wedding list so that you can go on-line and buy a present but DH (it's HIS niece, not mine, and he has probably only spoken to her two or three times in her life as we do not live near) wants to give money instead and he is thinking £50. This seems about right as we are also expected to 'donate a dish', that is take our own food to the reception. This is something I have not heard of before but it is apparently the latest thing.

Yes, I think £50 is fine if you aren't going to the wedding.

If I wasn't invited to the ceremony and they were well established I think £50 is a generous gift.

I would say £50 too - that's what I'd be thinking of for a nephew or niece anyway. I'd maybe throw in a bottle of fizz if I was going to the wedding.

(far too many 'amounts' in that post! )

I think £50 is fine - just the right amount really.

Of course it depends on your personal financial circumstances, but it's certainly not a stingy amount and they'll be getting larger amounts from closer relatives.

This is helpful ladytina, I hope you don't mind if I join your question as mine links with your OP. One of my nephews is getting married - the happy couple are going abroad together, no relatives or friends are attending. They have a house and don't need domestic stuff as they've been together ten years or more. I was thinking £50 but now wonder if that sounds mean. Any comments will be appreciated

I tend to give £100 to nephews/nieces and £50 to friends/children of friends.

What would you have spent on a gift? I suggest adding 50%. I feel that asking for monetary gifts makes us give more than we intended. On the other hand we don't want to appear mean IF we can afford it. My neighbours GD was moving into a house and I said I would like to give her a small housewarming gift. I was directed to the Next catalogue where things were v expensive and as she is a good friend I ordered one. When she came to marry I felt the wedding gift list was over the top and I ordered the cheapest thing which I felt was appropriate.

add the cost of two meals a tip and something over , think it would be nearer £100

It depends on your means really. Could you manage a hundred?