Granarchist - your point about children being trained in behaviour around horses fits very well in this discussion. My 18 month old grandson once got hold of our dogs ears, one in each hand and pulled his hands apart, still holding the dogs ears. She was a very gentle rescue border collie cross -we were all in the kitchen, my daughter at one end, me at the other (not a big room), both of us started walking towards the little boy, first there prized his hands away whilst saying let go of the dog. Dog greatly relieved, given lots of praise and child had an age appropriate explanation, no shouting at anyone. Child seemed to fully get that he wasn't to do that to the dog, the dog may bite - he never did anything remotely provocative or unkind ever again. He is 21 now and still a gentle, kind individual.