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Bereavement

Two years and still heartbroken

(7 Posts)
Doodle Tue 19-May-26 13:58:28

I lost my lovely man two years ago today. I’ve made lots of kind friends since then. Taken up art and joined walking group. Church has been a life saver and takes up a lot of my time so I don’t sit at home and wallow.
Nothing makes up for not having my lovely husband with me. I think of him constantly. When I look at photos of me back then I looked brighter, happier smilier. Now I look sad and melancholy. I miss him all the time, every day, talk to him constantly and tell him about things or remember things we did.
I’m not ā€œmoving onā€ ā€œaccepting my new normalā€. This will never be normal for me but I can cope now. I accept the sadness because I have the love and the memories and that is priceless.
Thinking of all who are feeling similar loss. šŸ’•

sarahcyn Tue 19-May-26 16:35:33

What a moving post...thinking of you.
No, it will never be "normal" in the way you were used to.
Grief is the price of love - and love is priceless.

petra Tue 19-May-26 16:39:07

I can feel your pain coming through your post.
I can only say I hope you find peace and comfort soon.

Judy54 Tue 19-May-26 16:49:08

It is so good Doodle that you have kind friends, clubs to go to and a supportive church. Whilst you may not feel that you are moving on it is wonderful to hear you say that you are coping. Loving memories are indeed priceless. Wishing you happier days ahead.

AGAA4 Tue 19-May-26 16:49:09

It takes a long time to really accept it. I have never 'got over it' but can now enjoy my life more and remember without that empty feeling that I had for a long time.
Even now I sometimes notice the empty chair and that cold other side of the bed. I always will now and I don't want to forget.
I'm sorry you are going through this Doodle. There is no way to not feel as you do. He will always be with you. They never go away.

Cossy Tue 19-May-26 16:58:55

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susytish Tue 19-May-26 17:04:43

I think 2 years is normal to start ā€˜getting used to it’.
I don’t think you ever get over it, but you learn to live with it.
Sending you a big hug.