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Family at Christmas

(78 Posts)
janeainsworth Wed 18-Nov-15 16:29:05

Can you not spend Christmas with them at their house or wherever they are staying, marblerun?

kittylester Wed 18-Nov-15 16:26:19

I think you have to let them go with a happy smile unless you offer to host the whole lot. I think that's what I would do. Or could you host a boxing day bash? Try not to let it come between you.

marblerun Wed 18-Nov-15 16:23:02

Advice please

My daughter has always alternated Christmas with me and with the "other grandparents" The years she is not with me I find very hard but I do realise she is doing it to be fair. This year is "my" turn but they have just found out that SiL's brother will be over from Australia with his family and as they never get to see him because of the expense and distance have said that they would like to go to SiL's parents this year instead of coming to me. My head understands this. My heart doesn't. I'm devastated but don't know how to handle it for the best