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Devestated Both Adult Children + only grandchild Going to Live Abroad

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tanith Mon 21-Dec-15 13:34:40

I can't imagine how sad you are feeling but you never know it might not happen and if it does they may come back at some point. As the others have said lots of grans face this and will have good advice for you..

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Luckygirl Mon 21-Dec-15 13:33:13

Sorry that this is making you sad - I can certainly understand that. How very difficult for you.

I would agree that London is not a good place to bring up a family - but there are lovely places nearer than S America! Perhaps you could gently point your DS in the direction of some of the lovely places in Britain!

I know that many GNetters have faced the same problem and will be along with good advice soon; and I send all my good wishes to you.

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J52 Mon 21-Dec-15 13:25:16

So sorry for you to feel this way, at this time. Many GNs have faced this and will no doubt be along with good advice.

We were lucky, ours came back, but could go again. Like you it would make me sad again.

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Leticia Mon 21-Dec-15 13:19:23

You are bound to feel sad but there is never any guarantee that our children will live around the corner. At least with Skype and FaceTime they are not lost and you can have regular contact.
It is a bit like a bereavement for the life you envisaged - be kind to yourself.
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trueblue22 Mon 21-Dec-15 12:17:12

I'm 63, based in Brighton & my children live in London.

My daughter has just told me she, her DH and GS are moving to Canada near to her in-laws. My single son (28) has just told me he's thinking of moving to South America. They both think London is overpriced, over populated and not a good place to bring up a family.

I'm happy for them to move on in their lives and find the best lifestyle for them. But I'm devestated for me. I have a DH and a comfortable home, but what's the point unless you've got family near you.

My only sister has mental health issues. She divorced after 34 years and caused me and her family a lot of problems because of her labile mental hcondition. I've tried contacting her, but she doesn't respond and just sends me cards to signify birthdays etc. No one- not even her adult chlldren- know where she lives. Probably somewhere near London.

Most of my friends are bound up with their families & grandchildren,who live near them. I work PT, have hobbles & friends I can rely on, but I just feel so abandoned. It's a time in my life where I want to see my grandchildren & family more. What happens when we're much older and the children are half way across the world?

I very rarely feel sorry for myself, but this situation just makes me feel so sad for what might have been.

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