Oh help!

Christmas certainly causes a lot of problems for some people that's for sure. Our family has it's fair share of stress and worry over who is going where and who is spending time with whom etc. I am trying to go with the flow and let it all wash over me. As others have said grannylyn you might find you enjoy it more than you think. for all who are not feeling very 'fun' inclined.

Eat drink and be merry Gransnetters for tomorrow we don't know what......

Rest assured, you are not the only one who thinks Christmas is totally overrated. I am another one who is reluctant to join in the "fun", which to me looks just like one big overindulgence of eating and drinking too much, often followed by arguments, resentment and the usual falling out.

A hermit's cave would do me nicely, if they could install central heating. Give me a pile of books and I'd be happy :-)

These comments are really helpful,am relieved indiana you understand. I know the family are really wanting me, and know I don't drink! There is a lovely area near us which contains 'Ossians Cave' you could look it up, is in Hermitage near me, am thinking of moving in except is damp, cold and, well, a cave!!

Maybe diplomatic flu is the answergrannylyn
Sometimes being alone can be preferable to feeling lonely in a crowd.
It is not a crime to prefer to be on your own doing things your way, especially if you are in discomfort and drinking all around is a potential minefield.
Put yourself first.

Oh grannylyn that is such a shame. Do you think you might perhaps have worried about this to the point where you have got the whole thing out of proportion in your mind? I can be like this at times with any large gathering of friends where I almost reach the point of panic, looking for a way out, trying wildly to think of excuses so I won't have to go. I have even at times found myself wishing I could wake up feeling sick or with a migraine so the situation would be taken out of my hands. How mad is that? But every single time when I've pulled myself together, got ready and gone, I have genuinely had a wonderful time, enjoyed meeting up with friends, some of whom I don't see very often.
Do painkillers relieve the dental plate problem? Or perhaps some sort of numbing agent? Why not ring your dentist or have a word with a pharmacist to see if there is something that will help.
Please try to focus on the positives. It could well turn out to be a lovely, enjoyable Christmas.

annsixty to you also xx

I would imagine this is very difficult for you grannylyn but would suggest you go and visit your friends and try and enjoy the time you have with them can you confide in your hosts that you find large gatherings daunting somewhat they may be able to help with the problem,ie seating you on a smaller table with other people you are familiar with,or you could go down another route altogether and volunteer to help with Christmas at a shelter for people who are unfortunate not to have anywhere to go at all with your social care background you would be a great asset.

Commiserations Grannylynn another one here who feels like you but at the same time wishes everyone a Very Happy Christmas. Enjoy every minute while you can.