Dear Berley, your post brought a lump to my throat. What a lovely person you are - you can rest assured that your Grandma knew - as so many others here have said, as we get older we can see and appreciate so much more than we did when we ourselves were young.
Your Grandma is wonderful and lovely part of you and you of her...nothing changes that. When someone very close, whom we love dearly, dies, we often feel regrets that we may not have done or said as much as we could to demonstrate our love and care. We agonise about things which we perceive as not said, not done. It is quite usual to feel this way....grief has so many different faces. After the long and close relationship that you had with your Grandma, that deep love you felt for one another is woven into a tapestry of both your lives - a warm and loving thread which started when you were born - maybe even before - and that thread isn't broken now... your Grandma may not be here, but that strong, unbreakable thread, still is. She knew for sure, Berley, because you are part of her and she of you, she watched you blossom and grow into the lovely person you are She will have been so proud and happy to know that you were living your life, getting on, doing things. She didn't need you to always be there in person, to know that you adored her. When her mind finally let her down, despite all that pain for all of you, in her heart would have been that unbreakable golden thread which led to you and still does. She knew, don't ever doubt it. Wishing you happier days ahead, with many, many lovely memories to treasure. xxxx