I look after my grandson once a week, but rarely see him at weekends or other times since his mum , my DIL,returned to work. I often offer to have him if they want to pop out at weekends, or have a night out, but they tend to ask my DIL' s mum more, natural she is closer to her mum ( gritted teeth, read it many times on forums, MIL vs Mother). Anyway, DIL is having a night out, and mentioned a while ago " she might need me" as my son is working away for a few days. I don't know whether or not to mention it again as the date is coming up soon, and I need to make arrangements as it will be overnight(i.e my place/ theirs/ time/ overnight etc). I have also realised that the nursery my DGS attends will be shut for a few days over Easter, one of which is the day in question. I assume my son and DIL realise this, but do I offer to have DGS now ( I usually offer by text as difficult for me to get to speak to DIL due to her job, though I know she speaks to her mum regularly in the day), or do I wait for her to contact me? Reading back through this, I think I sound a bit pathetic and whiney, but I stepped on DIL's toes very recently, over a family occasion, and was firmly and unkindly put in my place it seemed to me, so kI feel a bit 'stepping on eggshells' at the moment. So my question to other gransnetters is : do I offer/ remind, or wait to be asked?
Good Morning Saturday 20th April 2024
Estranged Son and Future Granddaughter
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