HELP - I've lost my mo-jo.

Thank you Izabella I am off to preen my feathers now!

Excellent post PRINTMISS

Could you go back to work part-time? Another alternative would be to get involved with the organisation and management of one of the organisations you volunteer work with. They are often glad of individuals who are prepared to act as trustees, get involved with the management committee or otherwise take some responsibility.

I think that when we have led active lives and served on committees, helped in the community, and then retire, we find ourselves at a loss, and feel a NEED to DO SOMETHING. It is difficult, but I decided a few years ago, that I was really quite enjoying the freedom of deciding this was the life I liked. I no longer HAVE to go to a meeting, DRIVE someone to an appointment, make arrangements around commitments to other people. I know I am older than some on here, but if you have worked all your life - in whatever capacity, you deserve some time to yourself without feeling guilty about not doing your bit as it were. Be kind to yourself.

holdthetonic can I say I share that feeling even though I do my bit volunteering and I keep active with golf and other things we don't have friends who would just pop in or ring us up to go for a drink or a walk etc. We have put it down to having moved away from our roots and having spent years of work being fully absorbed and no time for a social life. Our professions were our identity and now that's gone and its a big thing to lose. All I can suggest is what we do - keep on keeping on doing activities and trying new things. I do hope it improves for you. Keep talking with us on here for starters and perhaps go to a Gransnet meet up in your area or indeed some other area to make new friends. Best wishes.

Hello, holdthetonic
I'm sorry you are feeling so down at the moment. On the outside it sounds like you have a very lovely life but it doesn't help if it's not satisfying you. If you're feeling really blue there's not shame in speaking to your doctor about it?
In the mean time though, why don't you see if you can be more involved in volunteering - or perhaps offer to help out at your DD's school. I'm sure others on here will have some advice too but it's great that you are at least recognising that you are feeling out of sorts and need to take action.