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Daughter went away for two weeks.

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ninathenana Sat 09-Jul-16 10:36:10

not as smart as if mother had got him ready
He's 15 not 5 !
The eighteen yr old is an adult, if he was going to uni in September then he would be fending for himself., and bringing his piles of washing home to mum in the holidays smile I don't think I would leave a 15 yo alone but it would depend on the boy. He wasn't alone though he had his elder brother and you 20mins away.
I have left mine together at those ages. My mum was near by.

Melanie Sat 09-Jul-16 10:17:10

I was dismayed when my daughter announced she was going away with her partner for two weeks leaving her two sons home alone. They are 18 and 15. The fifteen year old had just done most of his GCSEs bar one and the older one was working. I couldn't imagine leaving my children alone at that age and was extremely concerned. Their father travels a lot in his work and is barely there but lives about 10 minutes away. I live about 20 minutes away.

I immediately offered to have the younger boy to stay with me offering him full support and promising to run him anywhere he wanted to go. He first said yes and then said no. I think there is a girlfriend in the mix who he was besotted with.

I was on edge the whole time she was away. I thought they were too young and irresponsible to be left for two weeks and considered the 18 year old, young for his age.

When my grandson and his girlfriend split up he was heartbroken and then there was no parent there to comfort him. Then he went to Prom and I thought he looked OK but not as smart as if a mother had got him ready.

When my daughter came back the house was still standing but she had eight loads of their washing to do and the place was a mess.

Is it OK to leave two teenagers of these ages to fend for themselves for two weeks, or is my daughter being neglectful.