Coping with anxiety

My daughter was flying back from Lanzarote last night and I couldn't relax till I saw the words 'landed'on the airport website. And, instead of getting exited about my son's wedding I'm worried about them driving round Croatia for their honeymoon. However, I've always been an introverted pessimist so it as a concern that you're feeling this way Lindill. When I told a doctor many years ago that I was worried about a lot of things he said to me 'do you get out and meet people much'. I replied that I had a small baby and, no I didn't. At the time I thought what a silly thing it was of him to say but, over the years I've realised he was right. Do you think it's the constant bombardment we get with 'bad news' all the time these days? Do agree that a chat with a doctor might be needed.

You're right Coolgran. We were off over the fields and ponds aged 8. I did say I wouldn't watch any more news or read the papers!

Yes, we do see dangers more as we age.

I know exactly what you mean about worrying, especially about the grandchildren. All I can say is that I try to 1) tell myself they will be OK. 2) try to distract myself until I hear they are safely arrived/back home.

I think you are probably a very caring person, which is why you cry over the terrible things on the news and also why you worry. You probably have a very active imagination too. That's not usually a bad characteristic but it does enable you to see all the things that could go wrong....all we can do is remember it is most unlikely with responsible adults around.

In fact I aways was more 'responsible' towards other people's children than to my own..

Fear not

Just love my kids so much I'm frightened for them. They're not aware.

Op...... think back to when you were that age and how you occupied your summer hols.

I am 67, at younger than 10, I was daily at the seaside with friends (10 minutes from home). No beach and when the tide was in full, at the promenade wall, it was 2 ft deep. We used a boat slipway to change into swimming costume and roll our clothes into our towel. Lots of children from the area and some adults having a swim or just walking the promenade, all looked out for each other. Our parents knew where we were but weren't with us. Neither was there any responsible adult. That's how we played.

Nowadays, perhaps we need to allow a little excitement, your granddaughter will have responsible adults looking out for her.

I'm sorry you feel so worried and hope it doesn't transfer to your granddaughter.

As mentioned by a previous poster, are you generally a worrier to such an extent. I feel for you
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Don't think so - family life good otherwise, comfortable lifestyle and holidays to come.

Do you think you could possibly be a bit depressed?

Nothing different - just petrified all the time about their safety. I don't pass it on but die inside every time they travel.

I find myself crying over the awful things in the news and I very often have to switch the tv off.

Are you on pills, or different pills from usual, or a different dosage, if you dont mind me asking?

No I've always been extrovert and optimistic and adventurous myself. I'm getting like this as I get older.

"Be along" not "be ing". And they already are

I would think something like cognitive behaviour therapy would help. Have you seen your GP about this? Is there perhaps an underlying reason - perhaps a previous experience of loss - that might be causing such extreme anxiety?

hi lindill your GD will be safe. She is going with responsible adults. Your anxiety is causing you to catastrophize.

Think about her enjoyment and adventure and excitement when she comes to tell you all about it.

Has something happened in the past or recently that has caused you to be like this?

Stay on here, others will be ing soon to reassure you further.

welcome if you're new.

Are you usually an anxious kind of person Lindi?

Do you normally feel like this?