morethan Eight weeks ago my DS left for university. I was on my knees. I couldn't function properly regardless of my health problems. I was at an all time low, not depressed, but absolutely worn out. I was scared how I was going to cope without him here to help me but at the same time, because he had caused me so much stress, I wanted time away from him too. I needed it. I wouldn't like to say what would have happened if I hadn't got it.
I ordered in some luxury ready made food (for the iron in the meat) and did nothing but rest, sleep, eat and watch drivel on tele that would keep my mind off what had been going on and how I was feeling. I did this for about a week or so. Then, when I had got myself back a little bit, I phoned a new cleaner up, a decorator lady and a gardener. All on board, they have helped me in the last few weeks to get the house turned around and into the gorgeous little palace it is now becoming. I would have been lost without them and honestly, I think I would have gone under. As it is, I now look forward to my cleaner coming and having a chat, moving onto the next stage of sorting out and feeling optimistic.
You really do need to take time out for yourself now. You will be no use to anyone if you go under too. It is so easily done when all the plates are spinning and you have no time for your own health, be it physical or mental. You need to look after both, very keenly. Let your brain relax. Try some mindfulness, or deep breathing exercises, even if it is only for a few minutes a day.
Do you have anyone at home who could make you some nourishing meals to restore you? Some good soup or broth, maybe take a tonic (I've just ordered Sanatogen Tonic Wine with added Iron). I think it takes a long time for us to realise that we need to look after ourselves, we have been doing the caring for others all our lives and are not used to putting ourselves first but you really do need to for a few weeks.
Now that I have had a break from my DS and got my strength mentally back a bit, I am looking forward to seeing him again in three weeks when he is home. I couldn't have done that a few weeks ago. It is not a weakness, it is your body saying time out, let's take a rest a while, please.
If one of us were asking for your advice, what would it be? Right, now take that advice yourself. We all care about you, please look after yourself now. Lots of hugs. Xxx
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