help me i havent bonded with gc number 7

Well I empathise wholeheartedly with the OP. I too had a grandchild who I could not feel any real love for try as I might. She's 11 now and I am still trying! I have cared for her and shown her affection and attention like her sister (who I adore) and agonised over why I could not switch on the love button. I admire lots of things about her - and tell her how proud I am of her. But....

I have come to accept that it is not a tap that can be turned on at will and I live with the guilty feeling of what I should be feeling but just don't.

erzulie, I too had this problem with my second granddaughter. I absolutely adored my first (her elder sister) I too looked after them when mum was working and although I couldn't show it it took me a long long time to bond with her. Her next sister I bonded with straight away so i couldn't understand what was so different with the middle one. Now of course I love her to bits and take all 3 of them away every year on my own to Wales and have a really good time together. It will come, it may just take time.

Early days, do give it time.
relax, it will happen, there is love enough.

You'll be fine once he develops his own little character

How wonderful, Anya

erzulie I agree with the others: give it time. Maybe the first one will always be special, but other can be special in different ways. One day he'll grab hold of your heart and flip it over. I didn't bond straight away with my 2nd granddaughter, maybe for similar reasons - I'd invested so much in the first and felt protective towards her - poor thing! I thought she'd be so jealous of this intruder, but actually it seems as though, if anything, the 2nd is jealous of the first one!!!

erzulie for reasons I don't want to go into on here I didn't want another GS. When GS3 was born I couldn't feel anything for him at all. I held him, fed him, looked after him when mum went back to work. Nothing.

I didn't tell anyone, how could I?

Then one day when he was six months old and I was feeding him his bottle, he suddenly looked me straight in the eyes and gave me the biggest smile and suddenly, all the hurt, the pain, the resentment fell away and in that moment we at last bonded.

Give it time.

Oh dear very honest of you but how sad, it sounds as if you have so much invested in the golden granddaughter that there will be no room for the little chap I truely hope you allow this to change even if you don't feel the same rush of love ...I knew a family who's girl was the apple of everyone's eye the new baby boy that came along could not find a place to ever shine always the also ran in my opinion not good for either of them
Maybe you just need to push yourself to love him and it will flow with time if he is very tiny it may come with interaction the first smile, the first giggle, the holding out of arms hopefully you will then melt

Thanks Miss I hope it will

Maybe it will take time?
Making friends, falling in love, lots of things happen in different ways.
I'm sure it will happen.