Many years ago my adult child was in a very violent relationship. The partner was in and out of jail. There was drink and drugs involved too.
One day the violence erupted and one of the children in particular was so severely beaten by one of the parents that it was almost fatal.
One of the grandparents who had a partner said that they would take the children for a week's holiday. Between those grandparents and the Social Services seemed to have ganged up to exclude the other parent and that side of the family.
The parent who was violent was convicted of the assault but did not as I recall get a sentence suitable to the crime.
It is now years later and one of the children has been dumped by the grandparent (whose partner is no longer present). I had heard about this through the grapevine and contacted Social Services. I have sent cards to the child never knowing if they were actually received by the child from those who run the Childrens Home. I am aware that the grandparents did not pass on Birthday and Christmas cards to the children.
In the last few days I have had calls from the Childrens Home claiming to have made a mistake about who they intended to phone. They have informed me that the child has spent weeks with the convicted violent parent.
Social Services have excluded the innocent parent who for work reasons has a very high level of security clearance. They are also excluding the innocent family of the innocent parent some of whom were also victims of the violent parent and some of whom also have/had very high security clearance.
I have also had a telephone call from a bunch of what sounded like drunken low to mid teens at midnight.
I have absolutely no idea what is going on with Social Services but I have watched some seriously weird behaviour from them of the years.
I am only intending to offer this mid teen child family friend ship and support which I don't see anything wrong with. I got in contact as soon as I heard that the grandmother had dumped the child off while keeping other children of various relationships.
I wonder if anyone can explain to me what can be going on here. The child themselves has not acknowledged having received anything from me. I did not like that the grandmother did that but I thought Social Services were obliged to keep as many family members as possible in touch with a child in their care.
It would be unfortunate if the child was to lose out because the grandmother and social services were so vindictive that they wont even pass on cards which I have no doubt they would have vetted. I spoke to NSPCC about this and they said it would be awful if the cards were coming from the abuser and yet Social Services are allowing the convicted abuser to take the child away for weeks at a time and condoning the child being absent from education.
Any comments welcome.
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