I am posting this again.
www.aspires-relationships.com/articles_as_characteristics.htm
In my experience it is not easy to live with many of the signs of this condition.
Does the SIL know he has the signs of AS and would he be prepared to get help to help him modify some of the behaviours that are damaging their relationship?
However Aspergers was barely known about until the 1990s all the issues that have been a problem for my OH are far too ingrained. I wonder if younger people may be able to get more help.
However my OH despite my best attempts does not seem able to address the behaviours which in general stresses out him and every one else he comes into contact with.
I have lived with it so long I can recognise signs in others quite quickly.
All of which raises the issue that, should people with AS be asked to try and modify the aspects of their behaviour that can cause very real difficulties for the person and those around them in relationships and work settings, or is that not allowing them to be "who they are."?
Recommendations please, for a stopover on the way to Loch Tay