Autistic grandson waking at night.

My GC have stuffed cuddle bears or dogs with lights and gentle sounds.

www.amazon.co.uk/Sleep-Tight-All-Night-Puppy/dp/B01EAL3YQ6/ref=sr_1_14?s=baby&ie=UTF8&qid=1493221245&sr=1-14&keywords=night+light+bear&tag=gransnetforum-21

DGS 2 now has diagnosis of autism. He has a gro clock. He knows not to get up, or not to bother anyone until the clock changes to sunshine.

I wonder if this would help your children sleep,?
gro.co.uk/product/gro-clock/

Ahhh my Grandson currently lives with me and he is 9 with Autism

Sometimes he wakes in the night but I go into his room and settle him down , sometimes squeeze in beside him till he falls asleep again , it depends if he is upset or not as sometimes he does not want to let me go and other times he wants to go back to sleep quickly , undisturbed and wants me to go and says ''bye bye'' to me and settles back down himself

He sleeps in with me when he is ill as I worry about his breathing as he has asthma and when he is better he knows he goes back to sleeping in his own room again

We have some upheaval at the moment so as a treat now he sleeps in with me every Saturday night only and he knows that is his fun treat night as he stays up a little later too , bless him

My autistic grandson is not good at sharing so on the odd occasion he has to sleep in the same room as his twin sister he is not happy."She turns the pages of her book over too loudly and I cant sleep" he complains.It is a good job she is a tolerant child.

My DGS's all sleep in the same room. They are short of space in their current rented flat, but it's all they can afford in Glasgow. They would love their own rooms, particularly GS1 who is an Aspie.

At the moment GS1 & 2 sleep in bunk beds. GS1 asked DD if they would still have to sleep in them when they buy a house. She said that not only could they have their own beds, but they could have their own bedrooms. He was appalled! Apparently their idea is that they should sleep in two beds side by side, or better yet in the same bed!

aquagran - what a wise friend and doctor. I have never understood the obsession our culture has with pushing our children away, autistic or not. My DSs and now DGC come and go from my bed as they want. They all grow out of it eventually!

I admit it must have been easier for me as I was a single parent and had no partner to consider.

My youngest DS did not seem able to sleep at all without some physical human contact either myself or his brothers, until he was over 10 years old. He made me laugh because he would get up in the morning and go back to his own bed accusing me of putting him in mine in the night!

Our autistic grandson sleeps at our house three times a week.I can hear him upstairs now playing with his lego and still very much wide awake.He will go to sleep soon and then come into our bed about 3 am.We say he must go to sleep in his own bed first and then it is OK to come into ours...The main problem is space. He is nine and likes to sleep spread-eagled !I see nothing wrong with having him with us in bed and only wish I had been less strict with my own children in this respect.He loves to come in and says I feel really cosy in your bed.What more could you ask?

Sometimes I don't know whether to laugh or cry maddy and deeda. Crying a bit now.
We carry on and do the best we can.
for all us Grans.

Deedaa

My autistic GS doesn't seem to have problems getting to sleep but he has always talked in his sleep and quite often sleep walks. He went through a spell of getting up at night and peeing in the laundry basket while fast asleep, but fortunately that phase seems to have worn off!

have given...or ...giving!

I am so grateful for all the help and support you are given to me .

I have two autistic grandsons. The older one is now 13, and goes to bed around 8.30 without being prompted. When he was younger he would go to bed at an appropriate time, but wake up around 4 am and sing loudly and chant, waking everyone up. Now he has an alarm clock in his room and knows he doesn't come downstairs till 6 am, and keeps quiet until then. He's always down on the dot though, and amuses himself on his computer. The youngest one is 5 and is following pretty much the same pattern, except that he likes to come downstairs around 6 and climb into bed with mum & dad. It was funny last time we were down there because we were sleeping in mum & dad's bed. In came DGS at 6, snuggled in next to me and then realised. He disappeared like a rat up a drainpipe!! They're both in mainstream education; the older one is at a great school in Oxford that has a unit, to which he can go and chill if things get stressful.

Autistic children often have trouble sleeping. A good bedtime routine of winding down, reading, going for a walk or something mind calming may help. Try contacting the autistic society or looking on the internet. Many of us on GN have children with ASD and will sympathise with the problem. Melatonin worked once for my DGC and then didn't work ever again so there is no one rule fixes all. Be gentle, autistic minds work differently, see if he can explain why this has become important to him now. Does he need to be with both mum and dad or will he settle if one of them sleeps in his room. My DGC suddenly developed a real worry about his mum not being with him. See if he can tell you what's wrong.

Why do kids have to be discouraged from sleeping with parents if it's needed it's needed well said that doctor Aquagran If the chap needs comfort give it to him
none of my kids were on the spectrum but we often bed hopped either me in theirs of they in ours I never thought that was a problem you're a mum still after bed time and there's enough scarceness in the world without limiting their one comfort

Had a chat to a friend at lunch who retold an anecdote about her son after he had had his tonsils out in hospital and was nervous sleeping on his own at home. The doctor asked "Would any other animal leave a scared baby on its own to sleep?" Well, there's the answer!

My DGS 1 is eight years old, he has Asperger syndrome, his two younger brothers are awaiting diagnosis, both probably on the spectrum. My DD and her husband decided that bedtime was pointless in their house. The children go to bed when they are tired, and get up when they are ready. It makes for a rather strange day. They usually go to bed between 11:00 pm and 01:30 am and get up somewhere around 10:00 and 11:00 am. They are home educated so are not bound by school times, and DD tries to make late appointments with hospitals and dentist ect. It works for them. here's an interesting article that might help.

Our DGS wore a nappy until he was eight ( all the time!) and one at night until he was 10, and then had self control and never wet the bed.We keep a waterproof on the bed for him in case of accidents, but it's never needed.Wearing a nappy is simply their way of feeling in control, it lessens anxiety, even though they don't physically need one.They will drop the habit themselves when ready.

Even with taking melatonin at night my DGS still often wakes up and goes into parents bed (has autism, aged 12) SIL gets up and sleeps in the boy's bed.When staying over with us, Grandpa is ejected to other room and DGS sleeps in with me.They all have high anxiety and poor sleep levels with autism.It is a problem that is hard to solve.

A good thought Nana3, but I think toiletting is ok! Do we ever stop worrying?

aquagran

aquagran my DGS is 10 and also on the spectrum, he also sleeps better at my house than at home. I keep exactly to his routine and keep the house quiet so he isn't disturbed. He still wears a nappy at night, won't go to bed without one and so needing the toilet in the night doesn't wake him. I'm wondering if this could be the reason your GS wakes up, needing the toilet. Sorry if you've thought of this already.

swanny, I will mention both to my daughter, thanks.