New Partner/Old Partner

I think you should risk getting your head bitten off again and have an honest talk with him. It's not a good start for a continuing relationship if he can't be open.

In my experience 53 does not equate to lack of sex drive.

Oh dear,Whatthehell, it seems like you have a bit of a task on your hands if he is clamming up,if it is prostate problems he would be going to the loo often (but not passing much) my Dad had it ,prognosis is good if you catch it early,but I believe the treatment makes the loving department a bit more difficult for a while. Is he willing to be intimate with you, if you are ok about not going the whole hog!( sorry I'm a bit of a sqemish 64yr old , not used to saying it how it is?)That might give you some indication if he is being entirely truthful with you.I would say you need to probe him a bit more so at least you know where you stand & have your say about the situation

Thanks norose for responding. He says there's nothing wrong except for a diminished sex drive but I know that there's more to it than that. The first thing that came to mind for me was prostate trouble but I got my head bitten off for suggesting that.

A few ideas went through my head Whatthehell, but first question is did this not come up (no pun intended) before you got back together, as you say 53 is not old.would he agree to talk to a Dr about it ? Or does he just have no interest whatsoever in the physical side, preffering just the companionship of being together again, if so it would have been good to have been truthful about it to you before you actually get back together , maybe he feared rejection. either way I think he owes you a proper conversation, he shouldn't feel anxious as you sound like a very sensitive thoughtful person . Good luck