Sorry you feel inadequate. Do you believe these wealthier people feel in any way superior or do you just feel inferior. Can I give you a view from the other side? Myself and my husband are much better off financialy than our 3 sets of in-laws. Our children have had a more sophisticated upbringing than their partners. Never have we met a more rude and thoughtless set of people. WHen we meet we ask about their health, holidays etc and just behave in our normal warm and friendly, courteous and civilised manner. ( we have been told that is our attitude by work, friends and family). On the other hand they ask us nothing, even when my husband had cancer. They sit looking into distance not engaging or even smiling just giving mumbled and brief responses. They never offer to share the bill when we are out or give thoughtful presents to grandchildren. Their attitude is we can afford everything. They talk about themselves when they do speak and it's as if we don't exist. I have been told they feel inferior and this is defensive beahviour. We are naturally very upset and in fact I minimise any contact. My children are also starting to minimise contact as appalled at the treatment to their parents. Please just be a human being as they are human beings. They think their life is normal and are not in any way intending to upset you. PLease stop thinking of yourself. Think of your partner and children and be warm, courteous and friendly. Ask 'how are you' at least. Please do not sit there thinking of how you look, how you sound. Think about making new friends and being open to new experiences. We are all of value.
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