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Class differences/blended families

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Norah Tue 30-May-17 15:06:33

Your partner is lovely, there is no reason to believe his children anything other than lovely. You are good enough, he chose you. Find one thing in common, like you do with a friend, and expand to that.

rosesarered Tue 30-May-17 15:03:32

Never feel bad about yourself because of lack of money.It is nice to have advantages in life, but not down to your own hard work/luck after all, if you are simply born into it.It neither does you credit or is your fault, none of us have a choice about the circumstances we were born to.
Your partner is obviously not at all snobbish and the adult children don't seem to be either.Be yourself, they seem to like you ( and tbh why worry even if they didn't)
Tell your own children to just be themselves as well, no need for anyone to put on airs and graces, and no need to be ashamed either.
Be open and pleasant with them and there should be no problems.

Flaxseed Tue 30-May-17 14:47:50

I hope this is the right place to get views on my dilemma.
Me and my partner are in our 50's and met a couple of years ago. We don't live together.

Both have children of varying ages (late teens to adulthood)
Partner is the nicest person I have ever met and we get on very, very well.
He is down to earth, non judgemental and successful.
I have never met his ex wife (mother of his children) but know she and her family are very well off.
Their children were privately educated and have never wanted for anything. They had/have everything. Horses, cars, a big house with no neighbours, holidays all over the world, speak very well, never had to earn anything for themselves and are now both at prestigious university's.
I have met them and I like them, but feel intimidated by them. Not because they do anything to make me feel intimidated, but just because I never feel 'good enough'

The issue is - the children have never met. And if I'm honest, I don't really want them to but accept that they will have to one day.
I just do not see what on earth they would have in common! They live in totally different worlds.

Myself and my children speak in our local accent, mine went to our local comprehensive. Whilst one of mine was accepted at uni, she decided she didn't want a 'lifetime of debt' so did a home based course and now has a good, well respected job.
My other one struggled at school but managed college and now has a job she loves but is not particularly well paid. She is happily pregnant and looking forward to working part time at the same job.

Both of mine have had paid work as soon as they were old enough and worked whilst studying. We've had 'normal' family holidays and did the normal extra curricular activities and school trips but nothing more.
They are crazy fun loving children who are happy with their lot in life. They have both saved hard to secure their own modest properties recently.
My partners children just seem to want to study forever and travel the world which is great for them and their choice of course!

My worries are, that I feel my partners children will look down on mine and mine will just think his are 'snooty'

My partner does a great job of including me in everything and I try not to show how uncomfortable I feel if we are with his children. But it's like they speak a different language when we are with them!

Has anyone else been in this situation?
How did you handle it?
What happened when the two families met?
Look forward to any answers/ opinions
Thank you