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Grand kids moved.

(28 Posts)
Anya Mon 26-Jun-17 06:16:58

It'll be like a grieving process. Don't be afraid to cry. It will, eventually, get easier.

I'm hoping you've separated from your DiL on good enough terms to be allowed to Skype your grandchildren and perhaps go for occasional visits or have the GC visit you?

Sadly it will mean a long period of adjusting to life without seeing them on a regular basis. Try to keep yourself busy but allow yourself to be sad too (((hugs)))

suzied Mon 26-Jun-17 05:47:11

Presumably your son will still have regular contact? Would he bring them to yours in the holidays? How do you get on with ex DiL? If they come and stay for holidays you will have them for an extended period . This is so hard for you now, but lots of GPs have GC a distance away but still maintain a great relationship. They will love coming to you in the holidays and will have fond memories of grandmas house and what a fun place it is.

GrammaDebi Mon 26-Jun-17 02:22:58

I'm new, as of today. My son and his wife divorced during this last year and yesterday my ex Dil and the 2 children, (boy-biologically my sons and named after my late husband, age 7 and girl not biologically my sons, but he has always adored and treated her as his own, as do I, age 10) moved 5 hours away. My heart is broken, there are complexities as well, but I know I won't be seeing the kids often at all. I regularly cared for the kids at their home and at my own, often for overnights and have for years. They have there own dressers here, etc. toy areas, tree house, swings, pool etc and everywhere I turn in my home are reminders of them, which is VERY hard for me right now. I have been in high anxiety and utterly distraught since the actual departure yesterday and I'd like to know how others may have gotten through this heartbreaking sadness. Thank you.