My Grans unannounced daily visits

Sounds to me like you've tried everything and she won't listen. Go out every day - the weather is great. When you're home, park in a different road. She'll soon get fed up visiting an empty house and she won't be able to tell if you're there or not.

Wild swan I called her last month and told her not to visit as I was having a meeting with the architect in regards to our loft being converted, she blatantly told me not to be stupid that she wouldn't be interested in the architect or our silly loft so she could sit in the livingroom to visit my son, she still came!! X

Primrose I've had other visitors in when she's arrived and she initially will say ' oh I didn't realise you had company' but then she will get comfortable and join the group with her own conversion etc.. I have tried getting to her house first with my son and she said it was too early and I heard she had said to other family members that she was too old to have young kids in her house x

Next time she leaves say firmly - I'm going to be too busy the next few days to see you, so could you come on xxxday and we can catch up. If she turns up then make sure your doors are locked so she can't just walk in, and when you open the door to speak to her repeat that you are busy and you will see her on xxxday. No other explanations are needed.

It is your house and your time so you need to take control of it - easier to say than do I know. She sounds pretty thick-skinned so I don't think you are going to upset her.

Nana billy I can totally relate.. I'm quite private if I think someone is desperate to store information to satisfy themselves.. I don't ask for help with money or my kids or anything else, I get on with things myself.. I don't feel like I'm getting the respect I deserve and I get wound up that I don't have control over my own house.. I know it will bring trouble if I implement rules, I'm doing the same with my sister, I've reached a point that I'm sick of being passive and just avoiding trouble.. My Gran will NOT be happy if I address this, I think she will not comply and say 'I was passing and car was there' x

I'm afraid you have just got to tell her to stop coming round every day. I had the same problem with my mum who I had never had a great relationship with since childhood. She suddenly started popping round every Tuesday and I started hating every Tuesday. I'm not one for routine anyway and I've never lived in anyone's pockets as they say as I'm I very private person but in the end these visits distressed me so much .Its not easy to do but for your own sanity Just Do It !!!!

You sound really tolerant Thistlerose. I'd suggest going out for the day spontaneously, inviting other friends round so that she's 'interrupting' - anything you can think of to show her that you have your life to live and are not there for her amusement/inspection. It's great that she wants to visit her son, she needs to arrange it in advance with you. Offer to take him to see her sometimes too, it doesn't always need to be at your place. Good luck!

I can't not answer the door because she comes round the back and can see us in our living room x

Quit answering the door.