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Was I wrong ?

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Altissimma Mon 23-Oct-17 10:34:58

You can purchase a RADAR key which opens accessible toilets under the RADAR s cheme which has been a lifesaver for a husband who's always needing the toilet. It can be extremely frustrating when an able-bodied looking person comes strolling out of an accessible loo when my rollator-using husband has been standing "holding it in" for 5 minutes! Yes not all disabilities are visible. Thankfully, male toilets don't end up with queues the way female ones sometimes do!

Coco51 Mon 23-Oct-17 10:32:28

Would you also park in a bay designated for blue badge holders? If not, there is your answer. Why use the facilities that might be more urgently needed by a disabled person? You could not possibly know when you were in there whether there was someone outside with a greater need than your own.

Esspee Mon 23-Oct-17 10:31:55

I would only consider it an issue if a disabled person was being prevented access because a non disabled person was using the facility.

Grandson2008 Mon 23-Oct-17 10:23:10

Of course you've done nothing wrong I use disabled toilets if the others are full. Also as in my case not all disabilities are seen

glammanana Mon 23-Oct-17 10:23:10

Its just what you class as disabled,I don't look disabled but could claim that my weak bladder entitled me to use it and I would use it if it was all that was available.Some people can't help in sticking their noses in other peoples business can they.?

goodgran Mon 23-Oct-17 10:22:18

I have a blue badge but never use the disabled loos cos I haven't got a wheelchair. But in hindsight it's crazy! No, you did nothing wrong at all and I'll be doing the same in future!wink

Nanny123 Mon 23-Oct-17 10:18:48

Not at all - if it were empty why not.

My mum uses to suffer badly with Crohn's disease and needed to use toilets in a frequent basis - she didn’t “look”
Disabled but she was. That could have been you - that woman had no right in having a go at you

Mauriherb Mon 23-Oct-17 10:17:46

Thank you. I'd never really thought about it before but she made me feel guilty! I always use the disabled loo when I have dgs with me as it's the only one big enough to take the pushchair in

quEEEniE Mon 23-Oct-17 10:15:22

what about when you go in to the toilets and there is a que but nobody has tested the closed doors! Truly despair of my own sex somethimes.

luluaugust Mon 23-Oct-17 10:13:43

Don't worry, any port in a storm!

MissAdventure Mon 23-Oct-17 09:53:23

I would say the 'disabled' sign just means the toilet is more accessible for disabled people, not that nobody else is allowed, so I use it with impunity. U

Charleygirl Mon 23-Oct-17 09:52:39

I popped into a male loo once, thankfully there was nobody there. I just misread the sign on the door.

There is no reason why you cannot use a disabled loo. Some people are plain nasty.

Lona Mon 23-Oct-17 09:50:52

Of course you weren't wrong. I often use the disabled toilet in Waitrose, especially if I'm with my little gd. I've never seen anyone disabled using it or waiting to use it.

Marydoll Mon 23-Oct-17 09:43:13

I agree Luckygirl.
I have disabilities, but common sense says use what is available if there is no queue. I certainly wouldn't object.
Also, looking at me, you would never realise I am disabled, I look really well.
Some people are just nasty.

Luckygirl Mon 23-Oct-17 09:32:14

Of course not - it is total nonsense for a loo to be empty when others need it. Just tell her to piss off! grin

Mauriherb Mon 23-Oct-17 09:29:14

Yesterday, while in town, I needed the loo. I went into the public ones and there was no queue but all the cubicles were occupied except the disabled one, so I used that. When I came out a lady mumbled something about me not looking disabled so I pointed out that the door said "disabled" not "disabled only" which I assume means that anyone could use it. I certainly wouldn't have used it if a disabled person was behind me in the queue. My question is.... was I wrong to use the disabled loo ?