noise in student hall

Has your daughter spoken to the student welfare for advice?

Well it is a totally different ballgame if your daughter has mental health problems especially if it can top her into panic attacks which can be horrible Maybe halls isn’t the right place to be So agree here with Bluegals post above

Oh just read your last post. You didn't say initially she had MH problems. Different ballgame then, perhaps she could be transferred on medical grounds? My apologies.

Personally I think it would add to the problems if she attempts to fight fire with fire especially as she sounds sensitive and he doesn't.

I kind of sympathise but also think...yep! this is students for you. When I visited my DD at Uni in halls I wondered how any of them got any sleep!! Most of them were 1st year away from home students! But they seemed to enjoy it. They then got shared flats for the next three years. Can't say there still weren't any issues but at least they got to rent with people they wanted in accommodation they chose.

Sure he is being a selfish prig but guys don't 'grow-up' until they are about 40 ha ha.

Also its only a year! May not be worth over stressing, especially for you. Am sure she could come home or go to friends occasionally to catch up on sleep? I agree, could be much more to worry about in the future. .

Hope your daughter's better and the noise has stopped.

Thanks everyone for your comments. Of course my DD doesn't expect me to sort it out! She was just sounding off - it's me that wants to sort it out, especially as she has MH problems, had a severe panic attack leading to vomiting last week, this is the last thing she needs.

Ringing the mobile great idea, or an 'accident'! but don't know how they would find out his number. I like the vuvuzela myself!

Thanks Mary. Merlot's and Anya's suggestions are great. These people don't like a taste of their own medicine. When his alarm goes, he's clearly still in bed so how about the others take it in turns to knock his door very loudly until he's forced to get up and then point out the alarm's going! Do this until he gets the message!

And a post grad MA student shouldn’t need Mum to sort it out!

Great idea Anya
Seriously though - one first year student can't be sorted out by all the others?

Fab idea Anya!

Excellent idea!

I presume his ‘alarm’ is his mobile phone..they usually are these days. I suggest you obtain his number and organise a rota and all ring him between his snoozes so he gets fed up and turns his phone off or down.

Hoist him with his own petard.

Of course we are all there for our adult children when they have real problems but things like a noisy student in the next room is something they need to sort out together for themselves The original poster says ‘I wonder what to do’ and I m saying it’s not for her to do anything or even worry about it they are adults there is more than one so they need to get together and come up with their own solution the mum doesn’t need to be involved

If this guy is running any sort of business he must surely be in breach of contract.
That should get him out.
The other thing is to enlist the help and support of the other residents. Strength in numbers!

Don't get mad, get even.

Buy a vuvuzela.

The easiest (albeit perhaps temporary) solution would be to have the alarm clock fall, accidentally, into a bucket of water.

I can't believe that 5 bright students cannot, between them, devise a strategy to clip this young chaps wings.

Assuming that it's University owned accommodation, in most UK Universities, there will be a Hall Warden responsible for the general running of the halls/flats.
Your DD and fellow flat mates should report their concerns to him/her who will then have a word with the student. Generally, a Warden can enforce sanctions such as issuing fines if they feel that the complaint is justified. Ultimately, the annoying student could be asked to vacate the flat.
My DH used to be a Hall Warden (before I met him) and had to deal with all sorts of anti social behaviour from the students over the years, although most students were perfectly reasonable.

Exactly stay.

Could all who are disturbed by the noise make a joint formal complaint as the mickey is being taken. It sounds as if this boy knows he takes advantage and expects to get away with it. There's no give and take. The only way to deal with folks like this is to get tough.

Very annoying, but I doubt if polite requests and/or threats will work as the authorities will be too busy dealing with the idiots who set off fire alarms at 3 o'clock in the morning, as happened regularly throughout my son's year in one of these student flats.I would suggest your daughter accepts the inevitable and gets up at 6 o'clock and uses the time to study, moving into another room while she gets on with her work. Or they could sabotage the alarm clock.

But there’s nothing wrong with our children whatever age they are asking us for advice in dealing with problems is there? I can’t understand why some people think that he should be allowed to behave as he wants and the others should adapt. Anyway there’s some sensible advice here about the way forward that might help - there certainly could be a compromise as opposed to the others having to suck it up

You can’t sort out over 18 s lives for them they are old enough to do it for themselves
I never had a clue whether the living arrangements were good bad or ugly when my girls where at uni I remember staying over a few times sleeping on a mattress on the floor and mucking in with a very different lifestyle to anything I d experienced before
I believe once you are in shared accommodation you have to accept it won’t necessarily be quiet living and they may need to try and find a compromise or move on
I hope your daughter gets the peace she wants but try not to worry it will be the start of many worries you will have over the years with grown up kids

NotTooOld - I agree, it's typical 1st yr behaviour! unfortunately her contract ties her into this student hall for the whole of this academic year (in other words, the whole MA) unless she can find someone to take over her room.

I feel sorry, actually for the other student who has been having problems, because her religious views mean she isn't supposed to be in a room with men - and the guy concerned had been using the living room/kitchen as his barber's shop business, so she was effectively excluded. Although they can choose a room when they apply, there is no way for students to know who else will be in the flat. It's a real pity, because I feel sure it would be possible to put together a flat full of women who want to study!

humpty - could she transfer to a shared student house? I appreciate what you say about her doing a masters which would perhaps make her older than others in the flat? The first years do tend to go a bit mad in year one - I should know because I used to teach them! - as many of them have never lived away from home before.

Sadly NotTooOld, I don't think so. Also MawBroon, remeber my DD is studying for her MA - she's not a 1st yr undergraduate, i which case I would agree with you - she's doing a vocational MA which will hopefully set her on her chosen career path...