I've just had DD on phone saying she can't do this any more. GS1 age 9 as most of you know has Asperger syndrome with Tourettes. His vile behaviour has escalated in the past few weeks. He's always had meltdowns associated with his condition, but it's getting to the stage where he is now saying the most hurtful, horrid things to his mother, being destructive with the nearest thing to hand, often his siblings belongings. He's upsetting the whole family. DSiL works at sea so is away at present, and won't be home until February. They only live 5 minutes down the road, but there isn't much DH and I can do to help except take either him or his brothers and sister for a few hours until everything subsides again.
DD is at her wits end with him. She took the whole family out of school as they were failing drastically, and the school didn't have the resources to help them. GS1 doesn't want to do school work, all he wants to do, in DD's words is "pratt about". The latest meltdown was about doing a science project, the subject chosen by him!! He tried to tear his sister's book, and then destroyed his brother's Lego model.
Understandably, she doesn't want to involve Social Services which means going through the GP, and having her parenting skills questioned.
I suggested to her that this seems to be the only way to deal with him. I suggested special school, but she doesn't know how to go about having him assessed without going through the GP etc.
Any thoughts would be appreciated as we are at a loss, and these outbursts are a daily occurrence.
Thank you all for taking the time to read this, honestly I could sit and weep, but that would help nobody.
