I've made a few comments on the other vegan thread that's been going recently, so thought I'd share my two pennies on here too. I'm vegan and don't wear wool or leather, or eat honey, but I do have animals, who I love dearly. Most of the vegan people I know have animals themselves (usually rescues - in fact, the friend that encouraged me to try veganism has a rescue charity). I also haven't chucked out a couple of leather items with sentimental value that I had before I went vegan. To each their own - to me it's not about holding yourself to saintly standards, it's about doing your best.
I think a lot of people feel most satisfied to imagine vegans as 'bizarre extremists' but the truth is that we're mostly just very normal people who happen not to want to consume certain products. And by not consuming those products, I wonder if that in turn makes the people that do feel like they are being judged. In my experience, this is not the case. I respect a meat eater's decision to do so, but respect goes both ways! Both my family and most of the people I've spoken to about my diet/lifestyle (they're usually the ones asking the questions) have been very supportive and interested, I'm happy to say.
Regarding the 'what would happen to all the cows/sheep/pigs etc.' argument, is it natural for these animals to be mass 'produced' and factory farmed? Is that what nature intended, I wonder?
Rainforests have been cut down in swathes to make way for crops for animal feed and for animal grazing, and there have been many studies that show how much plant-based food could be produced to feed a population compared to that which animal rearing could (it's a lot more!) Having said that, I also don't know many (if any) vegans who think they'll live to see a world where everyone is vegan - it's unrealistic and contrary to popular belief, we're not all raving loonies
Of course there are some out there who are a bit preachy and annoying (believe me, they get on other vegans' nerves as well!), but then there are plenty of carnivores who think it's funny to put a bag of pork sausages in the veggie section of the frozen aisle
As I said, I think respect goes both ways 