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whitewave Sun 28-Jan-18 13:47:57

We had dogs most of married life, and the dogs definately get pushed to the bottom when the babies start arriving. Looking back I realise we asked too much of the dogs, and I would not do it again, and I didn’t work.

Those husky type breeds need more exercise than almost every other breed, they will easily cover 100 miles pulling a sledge so I can’t see how anyone could possibly give the dog their needs

dogsmother Sun 28-Jan-18 13:38:42

Oh dear, couldn't agree more with the others its a big fat NO!
But how do you get her to listen....
I would suggest you get her to talk to other dog owners about the reality of it and hopefully they will make her see sense.

merlotgran Sun 28-Jan-18 13:34:57

I agree with all the above. We had a well trained Labrador when I had my first baby. She put up with being shoved to the bottom of the attention list but get another large dog??

NO!

Bellasnana Sun 28-Jan-18 12:55:07

Sounds like a recipe for disaster. Hope you can persuade her to see sense.

glammanana Sun 28-Jan-18 12:38:26

A big NO NO my son has an 8 yr old malamute he was already owned by my DIL when they married and my son is a strong man even he has to be on his guard all the time with him with other dogs,he and his wife do not have children as yet but he has always said if they do have any he would seriously have to think about rehoming him as he would be jealous of any baby brought into the family. Your DD will have to think seriously about settling the 2nd dog into the household whilst preparing to have her baby which is something I would not be happy with,speak to your SIL and get him to make his views clear on the subject.

M0nica Sun 28-Jan-18 12:18:32

I would never, ever, ever have one huge dog in the house with a young child in it, let alone two of them with a baby and toddler.

You can all imagine for yourselves the possible results and will have read about about such events in the papers far too frequently.

midgey Sun 28-Jan-18 12:16:35

Asking for trouble all round, original dog will have two new things to work out, new dog will be trying to find it’s feet and mum will be exhausted. Dissuade her!

NanaandGrampy Sun 28-Jan-18 12:15:27

No !

Just no! Alaskan Malamutes are magnificent creatures but there are issues ( some of which can be dealt with if you get your dog from a pup ). First of all they are world class lead pullers ! If well-trained less likely but if your daughter is taking on someone else's dog ( that they didn't have time for so how much training has been done?) then there is that to consider.

There you are with a buggy and 2 dogs all pulling hell for leather? I consider myself an experienced dog handler and I wouldn't take them out together. Maybe 20 years ago but they are not dogs for beginners .

Fences tend not to confine them - they are escape artists extraordinaire ! They will eat until they burst and are great scavengers ( always a concern when with small children I feel UNLESS very well trained and even then not dogs I would leave alone with a child).

I'm sorry to be so negative but this is just not the best time to add another large dog to a changing household. Does your daughter have any idea how many dogs are rehomed when a new baby arrives? Its a large percentage. People underestimate the work to balance the needs of a dog and a new baby.

I hope you can persuade her to wait - rethink it once baby is here- everything might look different then.

hildajenniJ Sun 28-Jan-18 11:54:04

I don't think could have coped with one dog, let alone two, when I was a new mum to my first child. My housework went to pot, I didn't change our bed sheets for eight weeks!? I think you DD is seriously underestimating the amount of work, and the tiredness involved with having a new baby. I would try to dissuade her from getting another huge dog until she has had the baby and knows she can manage all the extra work.
As a family, we got our first dog when DD was three and DS was eighteen months old.

Newnannie Sun 28-Jan-18 11:01:50

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Newnannie Sun 28-Jan-18 10:59:50

Hi all, this is a first time post so please be gentle! First off I’m not a dog owner, I have 3 cats. My daughter is expecting her first baby at the end of April, she already had a 3 year old Alaskan malamute who is gorgeous and she loves him a lot. Thing is she now wants to adopt another malamute ( big dogs, 48 kilo) to keep him company. The dog she is looking to adopt belongs at the moment to a friend of hers who's wife is expecting their second baby and they don’t have the time for their second dog which is the one my daughter wants to adopt. I feel that it’s the wrong time to adopt a new dog however well the two dogs get on. I think I’ll be looking after baby at least one day a week in the future and don’t think I could cope with baby and 2 big dogs but that’s not the point, I’m worried that she won’t be able to either and poor dog will be looking for a new home again!! This is a first baby, first grandchild and her husband doesn’t want a second dog either. I have a very close relationship with my daughter, but I’m just so worried!! Any thoughts anyone?