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No feelings for 1st grandchild

(30 Posts)
Eglantine21 Tue 30-Jan-18 19:29:35

We're not all baby people that feel an overwhelming "rush" for that tiny helpless being.
Don't worry. It will come.

I never believed in love at first sight....

jenpax Tue 30-Jan-18 19:28:41

Love will grow don’t worry. it’s harder with DGC as you haven’t carried them for 9months but once you spend time with the baby it will come

Ilovecheese Tue 30-Jan-18 19:22:49

Pretend

Mamissimo Tue 30-Jan-18 19:18:15

I had trouble bonding with one of my identical twins and my mother suggested that we needed to learn each other and that I should try sitting quietly with them when they were awake and maintaining eye contact. My dollop and I studied each other very carefully and I began to see the personality in there. She obviously did so to and I was the first person she smiled at....or I like to think so. We’ve never looked back and I think we have a deep understanding. Anyway, I learned to love her in those quiet moments. It will come. Go gaze!

GrannyT2017 Tue 30-Jan-18 19:10:58

I feel nothing for my new (5weeks old) grandchild.... Any advice?