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Where do you go to let off steam

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hopeful1 Sat 03-Feb-18 15:48:38

I've had an arguement with the entire family and stormed off in the car. Now sitting in Sainsburys car park wondering what to do next. I don't have any friends to share my problem with so will stay here til I feel better! Childish I know, and I do feel a bit stupid, but I need a bit of space. What do you do in your moment of angst?

cornergran Sat 03-Feb-18 20:30:41

The beach for me or if I can’t get there I develop a strong urge to tidy the loft. I know I get peace and quiet there. It’s very tidy just now hmm.

Marydoll Sat 03-Feb-18 19:34:35

I once took myself off for the day, getting a train into town and not telling anyone where I was going. No-one missed me, they were so grateful for the peace and quiet!grin

NannyTee Sat 03-Feb-18 19:13:11

I used to walk the streets till my anger/upset subsided. Don't seem to have any need these days now it's just the two of us. Take care though when driving upset .

gillybob Sat 03-Feb-18 19:09:17

I always head for the beach hopeful1

It doesn’t matter on the time of the day or night or even the weather. I sometimes plod through the sand with tears tripping me up and all sorts of thoughts running through my mind . I talk it all over with myself and find it helps.

I do hope you quickly make it up with your family and that you feel better .

Christinefrance Sat 03-Feb-18 18:47:05

Stay at home and make everyone suffer, bang things down, huff and puff and generally let it be known I am not happy,smile

lemongrove Sat 03-Feb-18 18:46:00

Gardening is therapeutic ( although maybe not in Feb) so perhaps a walk is the best idea.

farview Sat 03-Feb-18 18:42:06

Go up on the Moors,5mins away,sit,think,try to calm down...OR go the wine rack ??

merlotgran Sat 03-Feb-18 18:38:23

The greenhouse with my dog and battery radio. I can always find something to do that will calm me down cheer me up.

If it's at night I clamp on my headphones and listen to music.

I'm usually upbeat and cheerful though. DH is the grumpy one.

mollie Sat 03-Feb-18 18:37:22

Waitrose cafe. It’s warm and has decent coffee and ai can sit out my mood while watching the world do it’s shopping. Fascinating. Then I do some shopping and go home pretending nothing has happened.

NanaandGrampy Sat 03-Feb-18 18:06:01

?? it was MissAdventure

M0nica Sat 03-Feb-18 16:59:07

I am a bit like Nonnie, I used to go out for long walks, but then my sister was killed in a road accident. After that I scored everything on a scale of 10. 10 would be losing my children, 9.5 DH and DP, 9.0 my dear sister and so on.

Most of life's problems then score so low, that when faced with them, I now take a deep breath, let it out slowly and act as if nothing has happened (other people find it SO annoying grin)

paddyann Sat 03-Feb-18 16:52:41

Menopaws sad times I walk ...miles .Just until I can face everyone else without getting upset.Then I can be there for them .

paddyann Sat 03-Feb-18 16:50:41

I dont need to blow off steam,never been a ranter or a nagger .My OH was always the one with a temper.I remember when our car broke down and he lost the plot,threw the tools on the ground and kicked the tyre ...he was only 21 ...I took my bag from the car and walked to the bus stop and went home and cooked dinner for him getting back.He was a bit sheepish when he got back but it didn't stop him repeating the same thing for years ...my MIL always says if he'd married anyone else he'd have been divorced within months ..yet here we are 43 years later .Lifes too short for temper tantrums

kittylester Sat 03-Feb-18 16:50:05

I clean the kitchen in a very obvious silence!!

Menopaws Sat 03-Feb-18 16:45:03

I also do great silences but take the dog for mammoth walk around the fields opposite the house for an hour or so, weighing up pros and cons out loud, by the time I get back I'm ok, that goes for sad times too

Daisydoo2 Sat 03-Feb-18 16:43:10

I did exactly the same as hopeful.

MissAdventure Sat 03-Feb-18 16:42:19

NanaandGrampy
Is it a steam iron? smile

Daisydoo2 Sat 03-Feb-18 16:41:44

Didn't go in the shop due to looking slightly mad/deranged, t shirt, leggings and slippers, not noticed until I looked down! What a mess. Back home now and all is calm. Not sure I could do a Glamanana, but will try. It's freezing out there. Note to self: Think first.

Neeny Sat 03-Feb-18 16:41:00

There's a back road not far from my house. I drive up there, take a walk up the nature trail and let loose a scream....it's very therapeutic.

Fortunately it doesn't happen often though. ??

NanaandGrampy Sat 03-Feb-18 16:36:19

The ironing gets done when I'm in a snit with lots of huffing and slamming down the poor innocent iron :-)

Doesn't happen often thank god !!

morethan2 Sat 03-Feb-18 16:31:53

I don’t usually blow my top but this time last week I was completely exasperated. I was with my family and I really felt they ‘ganged up on me’ so I stomped out and went for a walk. I’m glad it wasn’t raining because I didn’t have a coat. Somtimes we just need some space. I’m going to try out glamanana method and smile sweetly......it’ll stick in my craw though.

OldMeg Sat 03-Feb-18 16:27:51

Hope you’re feel8ng less fraught hopeful - did you go into Sainsburys and buy yourself something special for tea?

PoshGran Sat 03-Feb-18 16:27:46

I don't rant, but my silences are magnificent! grin
I walk with very loud, stompy music on mp3 player, then switch to symphonic stuff to "wind down" with. Usually buy chocolate - I can eat it all myself or choose to share magnanimously if I think I may have been a teeny bit wrong & need a peace offering to open negotiations
At least go & do a bit of mooching while you're there hopeful1.
Tomorrow's another day. smile

glammanana Sat 03-Feb-18 16:18:00

I never loose my temper with my family at least not in front of them,I will smile and say in my nicest "Mrs Browns" voice "thats nice" and walk away they soon get the picture of how I am feeling.
Don't be driving your car whilst upset and annoyed you never know what will happen.Drive home carefully.

MissAdventure Sat 03-Feb-18 16:15:21

I'm all for a quiet life, if possible. I was much more spiky when younger.